Yesterday, I developed a swollen sore patch in my mouth. I assumed it was just the result of me biting my cheek in my sleep, but it keeps getting more swollen. I'm also having some soreness and tenderness in my jaw and some swelling and pain in my neck, both on the same side as the swelling. I've been feeling under the weather in general. And when I asked a friend of mine who's in medical school, she told me to see a doctor right away. Thing is, I live at home and my mom refuses to take me to see a doctor. She thinks I'm overreacting. But I'm really concerned, and I need the peace of mind at the very least. What do I do? (A pic of the lump can be found here: http://aradiamegido.com/post/113281894283/should-i-be-worried-about-this-swelling-it)
If someone with medical training says you should see a doctor, then you should probably see a doctor. Sudden and rapidly developing things like that are best caught early. (Perhaps something is infected, if you bit your cheek?)
What the fuck is wrong with your mom, holy shit. When a medical person says go do the thing, that means you are not "overreacting".
My mom is telling me we'll have to discuss payment because I had blood work done AT A DOCTOR'S ORDER. Keep in mind that I am unemployed and broke. Oh, and it's an abscess and I need antibiotics. I HAVE A FUCKING ABSCESS AND I HATE MY MOM.
... Sooo you weren't overreacting, then. BTW, if you are not covered by insurance, some doctors will radically alter bills if they don't think insurance is paying them.
I'm under insurance, yeah. She's taking it out of my allowance. She's also insisting that an abscess isn't a big deal and it would go away on its own, and that I shouldn't have seen a doctor so quickly. What a bitch, God.
Yeah, uh, all google searches I've done on abscesses say that you could have been seriously fucked over. So... citation needed, i guess, on the part of your mom
Yeah, that's the impression I got too. She also bitched me out for "never trusting her," which is fucking bull.
Uh, if its infected theres a really good chance it would actually have gotten much worse --and more expensive--if you waited? Like, those aren't the kind of things that usually just get better. And lol at trusting her when she's actually measurably wrong in a way that would have seriously harmed you. #not how trust works
Plus, this whole "doesn't come through when you need medical treatment" thing is a pretty dark check in favor of not trusting her, too.
That's completely, totally, wrong. She is full of shit. Look, if she'd been a jerk about it originally and then said "holy shit an abcess oh my god I am so sorry I was wrong not to trust you", that wouldn't be abusive, just clueless. Happens. But... This? This is rewriting reality to get away from being wrong. That's seriously fucked up.