Cedar's Complaint Thread

Discussion in 'Brainbent' started by chaoticArbiter, Sep 15, 2015.

  1. emythos

    emythos Lipstick Hoarding Dragon

    :( can you take a bit in between seeing him? or write stuff out before hand?
     
  2. chaoticArbiter

    chaoticArbiter an actual shiny eevee (destroyer of worlds)

    I might try the second one. like, I might try writing him a letter or something and giving him that, and making sure it's not super passive-aggressive or anything so that it's all good.
    I could take some time in between talking to him, but honestly, last time I split and tried to just not talk to the person, it made the split worse....
     
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  3. emythos

    emythos Lipstick Hoarding Dragon

    yeah, try the letter, then.
     
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  4. BPD anon

    BPD anon Here I sit, broken hearted

    ARGHHHH

    Ok so you are saying that when the CAUSE of "bad things will happen when you don't control your emotions" happens, the EFFECT is "then you learn pretty fast to control your emotions."

    So I have said that I don't know how to control my emotions. It feels like you are saying that therefore, since I don't have the effect, I must not have the cause! I must just never have had any effects for my emotional outbursts! I never got kicked out of school after school and had no friends and got screamed at and hurt by my mom, because if I DID, MAYBE I WOULD HAVE LEARNED PRETTY QUICK TO CONTROL MY EMOTIONS!!!
     
  5. jacktrash

    jacktrash spherical sockbox

    what keeps happening with you in this thread: you take another person's symptoms/experiences as a judgement and condemnation on you personally, you get angry, you yell at them.

    this is not a good thing. if you can't stop doing that, you need to stay out of this thread.
     
  6. chaoticArbiter

    chaoticArbiter an actual shiny eevee (destroyer of worlds)

    a brief update on my situation with my friend:
    I cannot write a letter to him that is not v v emotionally charged and potentially hurtful to him. I don't know what to do.
     
  7. emythos

    emythos Lipstick Hoarding Dragon

    :hug:
    have different person go between?
     
  8. chaoticArbiter

    chaoticArbiter an actual shiny eevee (destroyer of worlds)

    *hugs*
    that is a good idea
    that might actually work
    it would need to be someone who's friends with both of us or something though, so that the go-between person is not biased.
    maybe our girlfriend? she's very calm and not emotional about situations...hmmm.
     
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  9. emythos

    emythos Lipstick Hoarding Dragon

    :)
    yeah, she sounds like a good bet.
     
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  10. chaoticArbiter

    chaoticArbiter an actual shiny eevee (destroyer of worlds)

    further update, in case you were wondering, @emythos
    got our girlfriend to be a go-between last night
    she talked to me and then she talked to him and then she got us into a group chat and explained what both of us thought of the situation, and we talked it out
    there were several misunderstandings between me and him that she helped us resolve, and then me and him had a private Serious Discussion about my splitting and what caused it and how he needs to be more careful about what he says and how I need to be less affected by what he says and now we both have some stuff we're working on and the important thing is that it all worked out and we are talking again and everything is good!
     
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  11. emythos

    emythos Lipstick Hoarding Dragon

    yay! I'm super glad things are working out :)
     
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  12. chaoticArbiter

    chaoticArbiter an actual shiny eevee (destroyer of worlds)

    bluhs into this thread again
    things
    are not great
    I hate
    everything
    that is all
     
  13. IvyLB

    IvyLB Hardcore Vigilante Gay Chicken Facilitator

    *offers hugs*
    can you get yourself a hot chocolate or something? Because I think you deserve one right now.
     
  14. chaoticArbiter

    chaoticArbiter an actual shiny eevee (destroyer of worlds)

    lmao no bc if I go in the kitchen my mom's going to make snide comments about how I don't need to gain any more weight and that I better be getting a glass of water and nothing else and then I might just start crying because I really cannot take her nitpicking anymore tbh
    the hugs are welcome though
    I could use hugs
     
  15. IvyLB

    IvyLB Hardcore Vigilante Gay Chicken Facilitator

    YOur mom's kinda a shithead wow.
    I'mma e-hug the hell out of you! You're precious and we like you and you deserve nice things!
     
  16. chaoticArbiter

    chaoticArbiter an actual shiny eevee (destroyer of worlds)

    I should kind of be used to it by now because she is always like this and I'm just
    why am I still so easily upset by her and everything she does
    but yay hugs and people who like me
     
  17. jacktrash

    jacktrash spherical sockbox

    wow, your mom is an asshole D:
     
  18. chaoticArbiter

    chaoticArbiter an actual shiny eevee (destroyer of worlds)

    shrug
    my mom is just
    like that
    I live with it
     
  19. jacktrash

    jacktrash spherical sockbox

    i dig that you have to live with it for now bro, i'm just. aghast. holy shit. all my sympathies for having to put up with that unholy bullshit.
     
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  20. chaoticArbiter

    chaoticArbiter an actual shiny eevee (destroyer of worlds)

    yeah...thanks. like, legitimately.
    it sucks, but there's not much to be done for now.
    someday, though.
     
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