Personally I disagree there (note, not at all mad or upset at you for having a different opinion, just offering personal perspective) Sometimes I know I compartmentalize like a mofo because I can't deal with a thing Right Now. This results in memory loss, which is why I am very glad most of my interactions are in text now so I can go back and read over things later. Post meltdown, if I have said or done something I worry I will hurt others, immediately confronting myself with that is very likely to trigger a secondary meltdown, but an apology spiral this time. That isn't helpful at all, so I will make a sort of catch all apology and then return to specify things when I am stable and not worried I will turn my apology into needing people to reassure me. So in that way, not processing the thing immediately after very much is trying to get better, because it is mitigating further harm, if that makes sense?