So, I tend to nope out of conflict as soon as things get rough, even if I firmly believe I am in the right or that I have a point that has a reason to be stated. Perhaps in an attempt to justify my own cowardice, I usually have a fucking awful rush of self-loathing after an argument, even if it never got far enough to be considered an actual conflict and was resolved quickly and amicably. So, I just told myself I ought to go die for being obnoxious and argumentative. All I did was point out some questions I had with a person's criteria for a story/rp-type thing. Their rules are entirely unstated, and I said that it might be nice if they'd critique the example character they put up so people could figure out what exactly they wanted, and they told me I was coming across as pointlessly hostile, and now I'm acting like an idiot. In short, how do I trick myself into not beating myself up over this kind of thing? And general tips for how to avoid coming across as argumentative, I suppose?