Hi. My brother has been trying to help me build healthy habits and do things that I need to do as part of living a full life despite depression, and trying to be gentle and helpful. But sometimes he says things that hit me as judgmental and hit all my "you are a failure, doing all the wrong things, you are going to fuck things up and hurt your brother, retreat, retreat" and it's actually making it harder to do the things that it would be better for me to do (exercise, for example). But he's genuinely trying to help. And I've been quiet and just retreating, instead of pointing out when he hurts me. So... does anybody have good write ups, whether they're on tumblr, or a help site, or something, that can help me explain how to support someone with anxiety and depression? I'm going to talk with him about how what he's doing is nice but it's just, aggravating the issue and my self worth problems, but I'd like to have something to point him to, and something that has more authority than me going "this hurts plz stop". I'm pretty sure he's already done some research on depression and anxiety, and I think I showed him spoon theory before, so there's a start?