For dealing with the rest of your family, two options I can think of. Say it's complicated and you'd prefer not to talk about it, but you would like to keep in touch with the relative you're talking to. Every time they bring it up, gentle but firm redirect: "I'm not ready to make up with them. Can we discuss something else?" If they keep pushing, be firm and clear. "I am not interested in discussing my relationship with my parents with you." The one exception to this is to mention that you care about your parents, and that you do want a better relationship with them, but there are barriers in the way. Option two is the very direct approach. Write out a letter explaining exactly where you are with your parents, what they have done, what you have asked for, how they have responded. Send this to any relatives you want to stay close with, along with an explanation that you are doing what you can to talk to your parents, but you are not willing to put up with them hurting you. Let the relative know you appreciate their support, and hope they will understand that this is not a simple problem to handle, but you are trying your best.