i just wanted to ask as a person with bpd what it's like to lose a friend you didn't want to. please tell me about your emotional experience. friendships ending letting go watching someone drift away being a temporary friend what emotions do you go through
with the sort of friendships that end gradually, I've tended to feel a good amount of guilt for not reaching out more. historically, I've had a hard time remembering that this sort of thing is a two to tango situation and tended to blame myself mostly, but I've gotten a little better at putting things into perspective the last couple years the friendships that have ended because of a specific issue, I tend to feel some combination of sad and fear, often a fear of being made to justify my discomfort. also sometimes relief, if I was especially stressed out. I don't have bpd, but I do have a tendency toward codependence, so it's easy for me to wind up in situations where I offer way more of myself than is actually good for me, and it takes a while for me to figure out that it's actually affecting me. I'm mostly alright with situations where I'm friends with someone temporarily, like for instance at a summer camp or something. I feel a little sad to not be around them anymore, and wistful, but mostly I am just glad I have the memory. I hope that helps!
