Hi, So... I recently started a mostly long-distance relationship with a girl who I've known for several years. For pretty much the entire time we've known each other we've both said we're pansexual, which, great, because I've had a crush on her for a while and I've known for a while that I'm not exactly a girl. At first I thought genderqueer or genderfluid, but in the past year I've started leaning more towards Trans (FTM). Before starting the relationship, I told her that I'm mostly sure that I'm trans, but that there are only a few people who I want to tell right away. So everything is good, great even, for a little while. Then...The last time I got to see here she told me that she thinks she's a lesbian (we've had a few talks about it, she says that the idea of male genitalia scares her). And I got to thinking. When I first told her about my thoughts on my gender, she expressed the opinion of not wanting me to transition at all (which is mostly fine in my head, because it's a very large, very scary idea that I really don't have time to think about much right now, and I'm thinking that the most I would want to transition is maybe hormones, anyway)... This is no longer sitting quite well with me, when combined with her saying she's a lesbian. So, the actual drowning bit? I know I need to talk to her about this, and I'm going to see her again in a week (we talk in between, but this seems like a Big Thing that needs to be said in person...?) but I have no idea how to actually start this sort of big conversation, and no idea what to say. Help, please? Any advice would be...very greatly appreciated.
