How often do you interact with your local friends IRL?

Not counting texting/calling. I mean actually, physically hanging out. I only have one local friend (after over a year of living here, wish I had more) and we hang out once or twice a month. I'm wondering if this is unusual. Most of my time is spent alone.

 

Counting school, multiple times a day. Not counting school....once every month or two at the most often. Most of my friends I haven't seen since either August or October.

 

A couple times a month. I'd like it to be more like once a week, but my local friends either have kids (and thus more demands on their time) or live far enough away that someone has to drive an hour plus each way to hang out and that someone is usually me.

 

I am asocial, and in-person human interactions tire me out and scare me so uh.

During uni semester I hang out more but that is more by virtue of being in the same place at the same time, but yes.

 

I have two local friends, one I see four days out of the week because we have a class together and sit next to each other, though that doesn't really count as hanging out. The other (who is a much closer friend) I hang out with once a week (we both have shows on the college radio station and hers is right after mine), though a lot of the time we spend together is doing our own things, interspersed with showing each other pictures of animals, making weird noises and faces, ranting about annoying things that have happened, and sometimes actual conversations using full sentences. But other than that neither of us has the time or energy for hanging out.
Not sure if that's helpful *shrug*

 

There's this concept in media of two people who are such good friends that they do everything together. I was concerned about not meeting it but from the responses so far, it doesn't seem as common IRL.

 

Yeah, if we count school it's more often, but... Oh wow I just realised that technically I lied in my poll answer because it isn't once or twice a week anymore it's closer to once or twice a month since p much all my friends have moved away now
wait no
boardgame evenings
still once or twice a week
Whew for a while there I almost had to reevaluate my entire life bc I was even less sociable than I thought I was. (my parents get on my case about this quite a lot. this is both understandable and weird, considering that if we compare this to six-ten years ago, holy shit, I have so many local friends now)

Anyways I don't think once or twice a month is weird? Might be sorta low compared to the average, but... The only reason I meet people more often than that is structured/scheduled activities (boardgame nights have a set day of the week). If I had to plan it in separately every time I had to meet someone it'd be a lot longer apart. (Is a lot longer apart even. I've friends I haven't really seen for months.)

 

Some of my friends I see weekly, some once or twice a month... people I actually consider my friends, I think I need to see at least once every two months if they live in the area, though.

I don't think it's unusual to be alone a lot, it's really just the result of the circumstances of everyone involved, I think.

I definitely know some people who seem to have the whole best-friends-and-they-do-everything-together thing going on, but even if they do I definitely think it's much less common than most media would have us believe.

 

Well, I think there's some sampling bias going on here with a predominantly autistic and frequently also just generally introverted forum population.
That said, I don't that's as common IRL - it's a nice thing to have in a story because it's a prepacked little playing-off-eachother foil dynamic that you can basically move around as one character and/or split up for Drama. It definitely happens, and I think I can honestly name a few people I know who fit that dynamic, but I would say it's on one end of the bell curve rather than the average (with people here generally falling on the other side of the bell curve).

 

Hmm. Well, in my new environment probably about 3ish times a week, if you don't count when I am at work as socializing. If work counts as socializing, up to twice a day, almost every day. Currently see my moirail a few times a year due to distance.

 

My moirail comes over once a week except when they don't have time, and depending on the circumstances I sometimes go a month without socialising.
During semester I hang out in the common room so I do socialise, and currently I'm attending a gamedev meet which is twice-ish a week which I count as socialising because I'm going out and interacting with people who share a hobby.

 

Most of my irl friends it's once every month or two. All of us have pretty heavy school schedules, and can't really take the time off to unwind. The only exception was my s/o before we started dating, but that was because they didn't have school and I had plenty of time and gas money to make the commute.

Even my stepmom's best friend only gets lunch with her every three weeks or so.

 

For a while, I had a friend who lived very close by and we never seemed to get sick of each other, so at the height of our friendship we hung out as often as possible. That usually meant a couple of week nights and weekends, working around our jobs. It was pretty cool but that had also never happened in my life before, so I don't think that's normal.

Life Happened (i.e. her mom is a homophobe and became convinced we were in lesbians with each other) and so I didn't go to her house anymore, and my house was unsuitable. We still went shopping and out to eat and did other activities together, it it became much less frequent.

I feel like a normal total amount of non-school/study hangouts for me would me once a week or maybe slightly more, distributed between all my friends. I would absolutely not try to hang out with people as much as I did with that one friend, I would get totally burnt out.

 

Even when me and my best friend were roommates we didn't see each other every day because of conflicting schedules, and only properly hung out twice a week or so. Now I have one group that meets up monthly and another group that'll try to get together for drinks or dinner every few weekends. I'm very introverted so that's more than enough for me.

 

These days it's only a couple times a month. Our friend network is fairly small, and now almost everyone's got work or uni and various Life Commitments so we just have to sort of squeeze the social time in around it all somehow. I'm quite social so in my ideal world it'd be more like once a week, but alas, life just keeps on happening.

 

My friends back home I generally only see a few times a year. I moved away last year for my internship, and I don't go back home very much because I really need my weekends to relax. So I don't end up seeing them that much unfortunately :(

I have a new acquaintance/friend group from my internship though, and we go out to dinner once every two weeks, and we have outings/parties as a group :) That's fun.

 

In college, since everyone was within ten minutes max walking distance, it was multiple times a week. Sometimes it was just "oh hey we're getting lunch at the same time lets sit down together and chat while eating", a lot of times it was quidditch (my team not only had practices we often did events and sometimes we would all just go hang out in the same study place doing our homework). I often ended up in a friends house just, studying and laughing with friends. I honestly really miss that, I'm a social introvert so I really like hanging out with good friends, it's just that I need some days a week alone in my room to be me.

Nowadays, since I have much fewer friends where I'm living, and pretty much everyone has a job, it's a few times a month.

 

A couple of times a month nowadays. Used to be more often but oh, the joys of conflicting schedules. BFF works the same hours I do and we're both exhausted when we get home. Writer-spouse is in retail and our schedules are difficult to match up. It's a juggling act to hang out with either of them when the other is also free. We're trying to figure out a steady schedule for hangouts but it's not working out so far. I'm pretty okay with the current setup, though.