Original Title: So, my brother wants me to lie for him Mar. 11 / 17 Update Spoiler: Original Post - Feb. 11 / 17 TL;DR: My brother wants me to lie to the government for him, and I'm torn. Some background: He just got out of a housing situation with a friend of his (S) and friend's girlfriend (T), which managed to involve the friend's friend (E), the girlfriend's sister (A), and the friend's friend's girlfriend-du-jour. For a long while, all of them were on the security net and then my brother got employment. I can't remember the agreement exactly, but I know he paid for the internet, a chunk of the electricity, and groceries. The others would get groceries for themselves (while helping themselves to his) from the food bank. E, apparently, was alright in getting enough to share, but he was a later occupant. For a long while, it was T who made the rules, who spent any money she got on cake and treats to self-soothe (any requests to share, even if my brother had brought them something, were met with a 'no') and frequently would hold herself hostage. S spent his money on weed and alcohol. S, when he came in, spent his money on weed so he could sell it, despite living in close proximity to a dispensary and smoking half his product. And A had assaulted my brother in the past, is a minor, and not generally known for her stability. For Christmas, we got him a microwave. T said flat out that if he brought the thing home, he'd be taking on all of the electricity bill. The place was stressing my brother out enough that he'd stay at my apartment (One bedroom, converted dining room to a second one for my mom but still 1B on paper) for a few days a month, and then he requested that he stay for a month or two to save up money for his own place. After having a breakdown at one of his jobs and subsequently quitting, he was staying with us almost five nights a week. And once S broke a shelf of mementos, that was the last straw. My brother considered any outstanding money he owed S and T as 'paid', and booked it up here. So, he's still got the one job and is on the security net. I don't make him pay rent because I figure it's going to be only temporary so that he can get enough for first and last, and move the fuck out. Maybe find a place that's geared to income for low-income people. I don't know. He also recently got a doctor who gave him a preliminary mental health evaluation, and came back stating he had severe social anxiety, post-traumatic stress, depression, and I feel like there's more. But regardless, the doctor felt it was severe enough to suggest my brother admit himself to an inpatient program. My brother isn't sure if he should, but came away with a script for ... either venlafaxine or fluoxetine (Which he claims are too expensive. But I'm fairly certain that if you're on the security net, you're eligible to get a card that reduces your medication fee to a two dollar co-pay (that many pharmacies will waive). I wouldn't know, I was on the company drug plan when I had my script for sertraline.) And now he wants me to write a letter to the security net and tell them that I am charging him several hundred dollars in rent, so that they don't reduce the amount that he gets. The thing is, while I am employed full-time, my mom and I scrape by. Even with me claiming the entirety of the bills, I get a bit of a refund and she has to pay a small amount in income tax (By which I mean, less than twenty dollars). I've been audited by the government once in the past, and I really, really don't want it to happen again. And I'm afraid that if I do this for my brother, it'll come back to bite me as an additional several hundred dollars every month he's here being added to my 'income'. A thing I feel flavors all this is that I have been abused by him in the past, physically, verbally, emotionally and mentally. And even though distance has helped, I still don't consider him safe. He considers nonbinary people to be tumblr snowflakes (while talking about how he totally has this trans friend that they treat as one of the guys and nobody cares that the friend's AFAB (which i'm like, bullshit dude)). Any time someone's talking in an upset, somewhat angry, and forcefully calm tone, I flip my shit (Which he realized last year and stormed out the house because he felt attacked because surprise, I have triggers now!) He offered to make my work lunches and made me a sandwich the day after the offer. He says he wants to help around the house if someone would tell him what to do, but I'm out of the house almost eleven hours of the day and thus, may not be around to tell him 'Do the dishes, they're piling up in the sink' (when the dishes are, in fact, piling up in the sink). I'm the one that pushed for him to get a doctor (Which are free up here), that's trying to push him to take responsibility for his own self, when I'm the younger one, who has who-the-fuck knows what going on both physically and mentally, who has to focus on keeping their own tattered shit together. Him relying on me to prod him is just not on. But I'm derailing myself. So, as the TL;DR above says: my brother wants me to claim that he pays me rent to the government so that he doesn't suffer a loss of income. I initially said yes, but am now having second thoughts because I /know/ this will bite me in the ass. And if you read all of this, you deserve a cookie.