FIRST: slight warning that this may be hard to read because (TMI) I might have a pretty bad stomach bug and will be... distracted from writing this occasionally. ALSO: I swear... if that offends you I apologize. So this may end up being pretty long and if it is I apologize. To start at the beginning, I met this guy at work who was nerdy, kinda sweet, fairly attractive, and (the hardest thing for me to find...) actually likes guys. We started hanging out a bit and it proceeded to flirting VERY fast. He admits that he had a crush on me as soon as he started at the store and I told him I liked him back. We hung out once at my house and mainly just played videogames and watched youtube. While we were watching youtube, however, he started cuddling up to me and laying on my lap. At one point he even had me lay on his lap. I was super awkward at this point because I knew he had just been through a break up and I didn't know if this ... "meant" anything. After that we continue to stay flirty up until one day where he starts really missing his ex. I try to be nice ans supportive but he starts saying things like "no one could ever amount to him," and "he was the only one I loved and felt something real with." I know he wasn't directing any malice towards me but it still really hurt. I didn't send him any more texts for about a day and let him calm down and let him be the one to initiate a conversation with me. When he did the next day it was almost nothing but apologies for about 2 hours... and after that was out of the way I thought we were ok again. We started getting a little flirty again but I tried to somewhat keep my distance because of the whole ex scenario that happened. A little while later I get to hang out at his house and, like before, it started with videogames and ended with cuddling and youtube. At this point I was super confused with him but I really like him so I just went with it. After this the flirting started to become a LOT more sexual. He got me to install snapchat on my phone and (to put it bluntly) after a few days we had basically seen all of eachother minus eachothers dicks. He learned that storms (for some reason ... I still don't know why) make me very aroused and took those times to tease me even harder with pictures. Yet again, though this all suddenly came to a halt when he started missing his ex. This seemed to be the pattern for a bit and I got fed up... I wanted a relationship. He would still flirt with me sexually but if he ever thought of his ex bf he kinda pushed the "we are such good FRIENDS" thing down my throat. This kinda pissed me off but mostly just confused me. I had some free days one week and my dad happened to be out for the whole week so I tried to invite him over. He also had a couple of the days off and we planned to hang out at my place 2 days that week. (SIDE NOTE HERE: he has told me from like the minute we started talking that his parents are very strict and that he doesn't really leave the house much because of that. He also doesn't have people over if they are there because of them.) The first day we were supposed to hang out he got called into work and I was just kinda like "damn... well at least we still have Thursday." So... then Thursday morning comes along and I had just finished cleaning the whole house... he texts me that his mom is home... so he can't leave. Fast forward to that Sunday I am honestly kinda pissed at that and decide to joke about it with some friends from work. One (whom had already been drinking a little) informed me that I needed to forget about him because apparently he has been going out on dates.... she said that she knew for a little while but was hoping he would just tell me... but he didn't and she was drunk enough to have the confidence to blurt it out. I froze. I was like stone for the rest of the night. My friend kept telling me "i'm so sorry i shouldnt have said anything," but I needed to know. Now... this bothered me for a few reasons... first off how the hell could he go on dates if his parents are so strict that they have to think he is at work for him to be out of the house? on that same notion does this mean he lied that week and ditched me for a date with some guy?!? I didn't want any of this to be true so when I had calmed down a little early monday morning I sent him a long text asking him basically "what the actual fuck?" I was hoping that the "dates" we just like dinner dates with a friend or friends or something. From everything from before I VERY much felt like he still liked me but just needed time to get over his ex. I would not go as far as I did in "just a friendship." I was going to give him 2 days to reply before I sent a text asking if he received the message, but while writing this he actually texted me (at like 1am wed). All he sent was " I got your message I just really don't know what to say." ............... he has not replied to anything else. I don't know what to do... I really liked this guy and he knows how badly I have been hurt in the past. Why would he do something so similar to how I have been hurt before ESPECIALLY after telling me he was hurt in the same way?!? I don't know where to go from here and my hands are numb, i'm physically shaking, and i feel like im going to vomit... and i don't know what is the stomach bug and what is him/stress.