So, here's a thing I've been thinking about: If you have a thing which is hazardous, but is of a kind of hazard likely to cause people to come try to interact with it, that can be called an "attractive nuisance". Say, a swimming pool with no fence or anything can result in kids swimming unsupervised, and drowning. This is the root of my objection to a lot of the "vent thread" discourse: The notion that you can post nasty comments about people, and then blame them if they get hurt. No. The forum format invites reading, and things like tags and spoilers don't work like fences; they prevent accidentally wandering into a thing, but they don't prevent someone from trying to look if it seems interesting. And if you are talking about someone, that is by nature interesting to them. If you say uncharitable shit about people, you said it. This is not changed by tagging, by spoilers, by anything else. You said the thing. If they are hurt by it, you said a hurtful thing about them and they were hurt by it, and nothing changes this. If you don't want to hurt them, don't say uncharitable or mean things about them. If you are okay with hurting them, then go ahead and do it, but don't try to make up reasons they can't react as though you did so. "Just venting" doesn't mean "I don't have to apologize if I hurt people". If you hurt people, you owe them every bit as much of an apology whether or not you claimed that you were "just venting".