So, someone sent me some thoughts about the forum, and I don't think I agree, but I think they're interesting and worth talking about: I do think what (A) hasn't taken into account, because you're not open about it, and because it's not exactly hugely obvious until carefully reading everything you've said on the topic, that you are not trying to make Kintsugi open to everyone, or to be welcoming to everyone. You're trying to be welcoming to a specific subset of everyone (people with cluster B personality disorders?) and, for some reason or other, blatantly lying about giving a single fuck about anyone else. Possibly even to yourself. If you wanted to be as welcoming as possible to as many people as possible, you would prioritize and triage; instead you say that a civil person like (A) can just go somewhere else if they don't like your rules, while bending over backwards to accommodate (B). But that would be counter to your actual goal of being inclusive specifically to people who aren't capable of peacefully interacting with others without blowing the fuck up. At the expense of being welcoming to anyone else. So, this... doesn't sound quite right to me, but I think this is actually pretty close to the heart of the matter, and what people are often upset about in terms of apparent favoritism. The key, I think, is in the phrase "as welcoming as possible to as many people as possible". I don't think that's my goal. I think my goal is to say "about the same amount welcoming to absolutely everyone, even if that's not as welcoming as we could be if we were willing to kick people out". In short, whoever you are, you're welcome here. But! That doesn't mean we can, or will, accommodate your needs or preferences. You aren't more, or less, important than anyone else. That doesn't mean that I'm playing the numbers; I'm not going to say "well, either one person leaves or four people leave, so that person has to go". Nope. No one has to leave, no one is getting kicked out. And I'm going to try to make things more accommodating for everyone... But not by kicking anyone out.