Okay, so, this is a huge disconnect I didn't quite grok, but I think there's been a couple of years of not successfully communicating in either direction about a thing. Report anything you would like looked at by mods. It doesn't have to "break a rule". It doesn't have to be definitely in and of itself a thing we have to edit or delete or whatever. It can be nothing more than "this sorta bugged me" or "hey this user sounds really sad are they okay". I know a lot of people are used to feeling like their preferences or objections don't "count" unless they're aligned with an explicit formal rule or something. And I can see how, if you feel that way, it'd be really hard to report a thing when there's no "rules". But we still want to know about things. And we still do things about stuff that gets reported to us. We don't always do the thing you might expect. We may not ban people for being obnoxious or even sort of abusive... But reports help us make decisions like "do we need to find a way to contain this particular behavior", or "do we need to have a talk with this user about boundaries". I'm gonna try to draft some better words about this to get into the charter document, etcetera. But I think I want to start by reiterating a thing: When we say nothing anyone does makes it okay to treat them like trash, that includes you. If you are not happy with how people are treating you, it is okay to report that. It's okay to report that even if you think it sounds whiny. It's okay to post a thread in the Caring Void about how you don't think they're doing anything wrong, but that one user just really annoys you. Feedback like that is really important for us to be able to moderate effectively. If you don't report stuff, we are unlikely to know about it. And we've had complaints about abusive or predatory behavior, and sometimes we deal with them more effectively than others, and sometimes it works out and gets better, and sometimes we really don't know what the fuck to do. But we also get complaints about things that have apparently been happening for "months", and no one actually mentioned it to mods, so guess what, we didn't know and couldn't do anything. And if you're wondering how on earth we missed that people didn't feel like they could report stuff: I knew a few people had reported finding it hard, but we have always gotten at least some reports from at least some people, so I knew some people had gotten the intended usage, and I just assumed that at that point, if people weren't reporting stuff, it was because they didn't think it was a problem. Now I've found out that people are really upset about problems that no one's reported.