Oh. Right. I didn't intend to assert that Kathy did anything wrong, but I see now that I was thinking she did. Others told her to give a specific example, and so she did so. And she's pointed to that (and the fact that she didn't know who made the post she referred to) as reasons why she doesn't understand what Prismatic is asking. But that parses to me as an excuse, a "well I couldn't help it, I had to answer the question right then and there, because I felt pressured to do so." I make worse decisions when I feel pressured, and I assume that others do as well, so I've been thinking of it as irresponsible to capitulate to that pressure. That was a douchey thing of me to be thinking and implying. Sorry, Kathy. I didn't mean to say you did anything wrong, it looks like you were trying your best to make the conversation go smoothly, and the method you used just turned out to be nonoptimal. That's not your fault.