so. i've noticed that a thing i do sometimes is modify my stance on something if i think i could have offended someone. even if it's a minor thing. for example, when talking to my friends about movies they mentioned a certain movie that i've made fun of in the past, and i grumbled b/c it's a movie i'm not super fond of. but then bc i remembered certain facts about my friends i backpedaled and said that i'm not sure how to feel about that movie, b/c i realized that other people could like it and i could be insulting them when i didn't mean to be. and i'm just wondering: is this a common thing or not? b/c it doesn't seem like it's a normal thing--my core beliefs don't really change that much, especially since i'm stubborn, but whenever someone has an opinion that makes logical sense to me i can see why other people might have that opinion. i'm also quick to understand why people might have issues with whatever person, even if it's one of my friends, and i worry that i'm not loyal enough b/c i'm not jumping to said friend's defense and am instead sympathizing with the person who has the issues, and this bothers me b/c i feel like i'm not being a very good friend if i'm not defending them from people who might criticize them.