Hoo boy. Alright. I've been trying to deal with assorted family shit for like two years now, so I'm going to dump it here and hope someone else can help me see some kind of solution, because fuck if I can. Ever since I left high school (a little over two years ago), my relationship with my mum has become much more adult-to-adult than adult-to-child. Which is great! I genuinely enjoy her company and we're very close. Unfortunately, I'm now her main emotional support for a number of reasons: 1. My father, who I love dearly, has the emotional range and understanding of a teaspoon. I don't know if he's autistic or if it's a product of his upbringing or what, but he just Doesn't Get feelings. My mum, on the other hand, is a very emotional person (goes through bouts of depression and anxiety, among other things). He's also currently living in London, which I'll get back to later. So, he and Mum Skype once a day, get angry at each other because Dad doesn't understand why Mum is so lonely and upset and Mum gets (reasonably, in my opinion) frustrated with him, and then she's upset for the rest of the night. 2. My sister, god bless her, is both fifteen and frighteningly similar to my father in terms of personality. Pretty much everything 'wrong' with her boils down to 'she's fifteen and emotionally compromised', but that doesn't make it easier when she blows up at Mum for no reason. You know at Christmas when people post those tweets about how they omg didn't get the right kind of iPhone god THANKS MOM? That's my sister. She also spends all her time in her room Skyping her boyfriend. Mum tries to limit her computer time but my sister is very manipulative and my mum is easily manipulated, and it never quite works. She doesn't quite get why Mum wants to spend time with her and would be happy locked in her room all day. Actually, she doesn't really like anyone in our family all that much (because she's fifteen) and desperately wants to be independent (because she's fifteen). She's seeing a therapist, but that doesn't really seem to be helping on the mum-sister relationship front. 3. Me! I'm 20, in a fugue of depression/college stress/vague illness at all times, have difficulty with social interaction (suspected autism but not diagnosed), and am really, really not equipped to mediate between the other three members of my family. Which is what I do. Constantly. Trying to get the three of them to understand each other and compromise is like herding cats. And if that wasn't bad enough ... 4. We're all moving to London for my dad's job. Which is great! It's a very lucrative position! Except Dad's head has been there for the last two months and he can't see past the end of his own goddamn nose/understand that his wife of 25+ years might be a little lonely without him. He's currently over there now, is coming back for my birthday in April to sort out some stuff, going back, then the rest of us are moving over in July. So Mum is trying desperately to sort things out on her end (lots and lots of paperwork!), plus get my sister through her junior year of highschool, plus get me through my final year of college, plus run a small business (she sells Thermomixes, if anyone here has heard of those, I don't think they're in the USA yet?), plus try not to have an emotional breakdown. Christ, I don't even know what kind of advice to ask for. I try to get my sister to understand my mum - she just complains about how it's not fair on her. Fine, she's fifteen, that's a lost cause. I try to get my mum to hang out with her friends. Great, that's all good, but she can only do that so much, and the worst of it is in the evenings when my sister is in her room or the study Skyping; I try to stay in the living room with mum, at least, but ... I'm gonna be real with you guys, I don't have the energy or tools to keep a conversation going all night, I don't really like the same shows my mum does, and I'd rather be on the internet. Selfish, I know, but ... I don't know. I want someone to tell me I'm doing all I can. Or to come up with a magic solution to make my mum not lonely and sad all the time. Or, failing all else, to come up with a family-friendly multiplayer game I can get for the PS3, because the only time my sister showed any interest in "family bonding time" is when I tried to load up Portal 2, but then Mum didn't understand it at all and didn't have fun. (My sister, it should be noted, likes hanging out with me. I seem to be the only person in the house all three of them like.) Aaaaaaaaaaaaaargh. Words. So many. Sorry. I just ... man, I'm just so tired. I still feel like a kid a lot of the time, but then I'm hugging my mum while she sobs and asks why my sister hates her. You know?