we don't have one of these. i would like to keep any competition (whose SI is more hardcore versus 'scratching', etc) out of this thread, as well as posts that encourage or shame this particularly violent coping mechanism. lectures don't help, believe me, i know. resources and personal stories are welcome, but please try to keep this thing about communication. i am sure there will be crisis posts, but i would prefer to move those to private conversations ASAP. this is a contagious and addictive issue, and triggers should be expected. if you have a behavior that you suspect might be self-harm, let's talk about it. i came up with a few questions, and answered them for myself. if you think of other questions, throw them in! Why do you do it? -Autism, depersonalization/derealization. i had a strong desire for scars that i could always look at later to prove to myself that my feelings were real, strong, and important enough to bleed for. i wanted physical proof because i didn't trust my emotions. i also wanted to test my resolve and prove to myself i could handle anything. Have you stopped if so, what made you stop? -Yes. I feel like i just stopped needing to do it. Do you regret it? -Nope. I wouldn't recommend other people turn to self-injury, but i am proud of what i've survived. part of me still needs the scars to remind me of how far i've come. What is your goal regarding self-harm? Do you know how to achieve it? -To help people who are still fucked up find real ways to deal with their shit. i suspect the answer is going to mainly involve therapy of some kind. former self-harmers: What advice helped you stop? links welcome. current self-injurers: Do you want to stop? Do you feel like you need help?