Onna asked this over in the vent thread thread, and I think I want to try to articulate this thing. Why do I try so hard to say "guideline" rather than "rule"? Because they are completely different things. Say you're in a fight with someone. If there are rules, and they break a rule, you can Invoke The Rule. They can be punished for doing the thing wrong, or they can be generally understood to have Broken A Rule, and there can be social consequences. And the existence of a rule means the existence of corresponding exploits. If you can make someone break a rule, you have power. If you can demonstrate that you didn't break a rule, you have power. So power goes to people who are good at edging up to the rules and not-quite breaking them, and pissing other people off. If there's guidelines, and you aren't really violating a guideline, and you poke someone while technically not really "violating" any "guidelines", and they respond by doing something that appears to violate a guideline, we can just look at that and say "wow, you're sort of being an asshole there, no shit they yelled at you, you were poking them". And that's why guidelines, not rules. That's why the complete lack of "enforcement" of rules. That's why I don't like to be super careful and precise and draw up exact lines and exact protocols. Because I don't want anyone thinking that they have to follow this exact procedure or they're Wrong.