Super General Advice (the thread for advice without making a thread)

does anyone have a social script for reacting to sympathy-sorries that isn't deflection?

 

Can you clarify what you mean? Like, people saying "sorry" to you when they feel bad for you?

 

yeah, like "sorry for your loss"/"sorry that happened" type stuff

 

'Thank you' or 'thanks for your kind words' or something like that usually works

 

@LadyNighteyes @Hisuian Typhlosion like a week late but thank you for the replies

As it turns out, the place I was looking at was chocka with asbestos and lead paint and had been sitting vacant for several years at least, so it was a non-starter :P tbh I still might have gone for it but they wanted cash only. In the end I'm probably going to have to either settle for something like that or a mobile home, though - the real estate market is absolutely nuts in my area and just getting worse. Fortunately I'm not in a hurry so I'm just staking out the real estate websites and waiting for something to jump on. Or for the market to crash.

Looking into this place got me in contact with a realtor, at least, so when I do find something I want I'm going to probably contact and hire them as my agent for the process. This type of paperwork activates turbo inattentive ADHD mode for me XD

 

This, and "thank you, I feel like [x]" is my go to. You don't have to actually talk about your feelings if you don't want to, but in case you're dealing with someone who says sorry habitually, it's sometimes helpful to offer them a ground in your own feelings so they don't continue feeling like they need to appease you somehow.