If you don't feel like reading everything else, just read this post. The rest of the thread is clarification. You won't be punished for not knowing things here. (Or, in fact, for anything else.) The name "Kintsugi" comes from the art of finding the beauty in broken things while still fixing them. People who have mental health problems or have been abused often view themselves as "broken" and think they can never be as good as other people. We reject this unequivocally; putting yourself back together after being hurt doesn't make you less good than people who were never hurt that badly in the first place, it makes you different. Sometimes beautifully so. This forum’s goal is to allow anyone to be who they are, to have a healthy community where people can talk about what’s troubling them, be heard, and get help with the problems they have. There will be slip-ups along the way, because we are human. There will be people who say hurtful things. Maybe they're too angry not to. Maybe they're uninformed or insensitive. But they won't get banned from participating and neither will you. Mistakes will not result in punitive action. There is no punitive action. Here's our basic premises: Everyone (who isn’t a spambot) is welcome here. Even if you've repeatedly done very harmful things in the recent past, you are still welcome here. No matter what you do, you will not be forcefully kicked out if we are able to communicate with you about your behavior, and you acknowledge that the harm is a problem. If you want to ignore people for your own wellbeing, that is always acceptable, no matter the circumstance. Take care of yourself first, always. There is one fundamental thing we ask you to keep in mind when posting here: There is nothing anybody can do or say or be that will make it okay to treat them like trash. This includes treating other people like trash. That's the basis of this community. You won't always be able to follow this principle. That's okay. We all do it. It's understandable. Expressing emotion is far better than letting it fester into something toxic. However, it’s important to remember that people may be hurt by your words and, when you feel better, you should own up to it. If possible, apologize. Do your best to improve and do better next time. Moderation is not about enforcing the principle; it's about keeping the forum functional. It can't be; the principle is by nature unenforceable. Moderation is about providing an environment where people can try to follow the principle and get better at it. Some users have their posts reviewed by moderators before those posts appear. This isn't a punishment; it's a disability accommodation. The forum founder/admin (seebs) is one of the users whose posts get reviewed, because they have a short temper and no tact. These are the standards that we are setting in order to make this the best Kintsugi it can be. By participating in this forum, you are agreeing to do your best to act according to these standards.