How To Convince My Mom I'm Not In Love With My Best Friend

Bel will know what I've talking about.

My mom keeps saying things that can unambiguously be read as "you are in love with your best friend John," (or @Totally David K , she's said I'm in love with you to) and then saying that she just "doesn't want me to be lying to myself"

HALP

 

I give you sympathy, but I have no advice. Everyone does the same thing to me. Actually, I think the only friend I've got that someone hasn't assumed I'm pining over (that I know of) is @Missfortunate , but that's because she's been in a relationship for the entire time I've known her.

 

Sympathy is nice to. Thanks :D
And Missfortunate is cool.

 

She might take that seriously, I'm not sure but she might.
Also, her comments just make my feelings more muddled looking. My feelings towards @Totally David K are firmly platonic best bros area, but my feelings for John, who is off forum, are complicated.
I sort of consider us morails, and like...

Spoiler: Weird future fantasy

I'd want to be in a sexual non-romantic friendship thing with him? i don't know??????
blahhhh feelings are confused. That's another reason it's not helping- a relationship with him would never happen, he's 18 atm and i'm 15, and even when that's no longer a thing he's vaguely demiromantic?

The worst thing is we've agreed that from the outside our interactions look like we're dating sometimes.
So I don't know.
*sad confused twirl*

 

Hugs to ya, feelings are weird as hel, as are parents.

 

thanks, though I think you need them more.

here's a cute thing.

 

Aww :3
I appreciate the cute thing <3

 

he is from a planet that literally runs on cute.
like- here's his species preparing for war
warning: high pitched

 

That might just be the most concentrated amount of cute I have seen in one place.

 

i know right?
the adorable murderous army that shoots adorable fireballs.

 

Best sort of army.

 

have done both of those things, and she was off the topic for a while, it's just started up recently.
because she says "oh, i'm not implying anything, and it only matters how you label it to yourself"
well i'm labeling that we're goddamn morails, stop making me confused.
and stop grasping at straws for me not being attracted to girls!
and stop using me being dumped as proof of this!

 

That might hopefully work.

Like, John and I look vaguely relationship-y from the outside, but we're not.

Because we're John and me, friends who will hopefully remain besties after he goes off to college.

Friends who discuss what makes us sad and do the vulcan hand sign as a fairwell.

 

I had this problem once upon a time, and no rational argument would make any kind of difference because let's not talk about my family.

I'm not sure how much use it will be for solving your problem, but on the off-chance it's helpful here's how I got out of the situation:

Spoiler: funny thing is Friend was actually interested in me at one point and my reaction was "lolno i don't wanna tap that"

The way I eventually got out of it was "So Friend has a Significant Other (who I am equally close friends with) and it makes me deeply and sincerely uncomfortable that you'd be joking about a course of action which would lead to SO being hurt, especially given that let's be completely frank here I am actually more likely to be romantically interested in SO because they are a sweetheart whereas Friend is kind of a pretentious douche at times." I'm not sure what specifically made that argument work when all others failed, but it was probably some combination of a) it's hilarious to watch SS get upset but it's a dick move to drag other people into it, b) if Friend/SO is canon then Friend/SS has no chance of ever happening, and c) SS just expressed interest in someone of SS' samegender let us never speak of this ever again.
Either way, since that conversation they've stopped suggesting that I have an interest in Friend, and I keep them updated on Friend's various romantic dramas to make it clear that Friend/current-SO is my OTP and that if I wanted to mack on Friend I'd have plenty of opportunity to ~*~mend their broken heart~*~

 

She has now said "you're feelings for Dave are different then for John" to which my reaction is no shit.

it's just the way she says it is implies that those "different feelings" for John are flushed ones.

No. He is my gorram morail.
he's the friend who takes no spoons and who I love a huge ton, the friend I could talk to for hours.

But he's not ever going to be a matesprit.

I mean if he asked me out I'd probably say yes, but as things stand I don't want to date him.

She herself got frustrated because apparently I wasn't "getting" it and dropped the topic.

 

Welp, that is 100% ridiculous.
I feel like you need to draw her a chart.

 

I love the whole 'the only reason anyone could possibly disagree with me is that they dont ~*^understand*^~' thing. Where by love i mean want to set on fire. :(