Rating System (was: what even are social noises round N+1)

Discussion in 'That's So Meta!' started by seebs, Mar 31, 2017.

  1. mizushimo

    mizushimo the greatest hits

    I don't like sympathy at all, it feels stilted idk, like someone coming up to you and saying "sympathy" and then walking away.
     
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  2. vuatson

    vuatson [delurks]

    I mean, any sympathy-type rating option is going to be stilted, though. It's a single word. If people want to express more nuance, they can comment, but I like a way of saying HERE HAVE THIS SENTIMENT in a nice simple compact way because I'm super shy and can never bring myself to comment, especially on stuff involving other people's emotions.
     
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  3. Aqua Vitae

    Aqua Vitae put some honey and sea water by your bed.

    i think the sympathy/comfort noises button should be "tea"
     
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  4. Alaspooralice

    Alaspooralice An actual trash fire

    Tea?
     
  5. Aqua Vitae

    Aqua Vitae put some honey and sea water by your bed.

    As in offering a cup of.
     
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  6. Aondeug

    Aondeug Cringe Annoying Ass Female Lobster

    ACTUALLY YES THAT IS NOW THE OPTION I SUPPORT. TEA. FUCK THE HEART AND SYMPATHY JUST TEA.
     
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  7. coldstars

    coldstars get Jazzy on it

    I pretty sure the whole sipping/spilling tea meme(s) has given that one some other connotations :P
     
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  8. Aondeug

    Aondeug Cringe Annoying Ass Female Lobster

    No it has not and I WILL SLAP THE CREATOR OF THAT MEME YOU DO NOT TAKE MY TEA FROM ME D:<
     
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  9. Verily

    Verily surprised Xue Yang peddler

    Holy shit @spockandawe, the freak out when asked to do something while doing something else, the fucking gap between monitors. SAME HAT
     
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  10. Verily

    Verily surprised Xue Yang peddler

    I think it's kinda weird, for the record, to get rid of funny when it's one of the ones I see used most. But that's not the hill I wanna die on if people dislike it. Winner is more my type of hill.
     
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  11. What if you changed "Hugs" to "Hugs Available"? I know someone said that "hugs offered" or "hugs if you want" seems like a thing which they have to either reject or accept, but "available" feels to me more like "there's tea in the kitchen if you want, feel free to help yourself to it," "there's a hug here if you want, feel free to help yourself to it," and less like "here is a hug, take it or leave me hanging."
     
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  12. Salted Earth

    Salted Earth DISOWNING DOESN'T STACK, ASSHOLE

    Data point: I've found myself liking the idea of using 'Useful' in my abuse thread because a grand majority of the time, the supportive noises people make at me there are super useful to me. 'Informative' feels like the wrong reaction in cases where I technically knew the thing but my brain was being bad about it, but 'Useful' communicates that it was a helpful post and I appreciated it. I can very easily use 'Like' to get across the same message, so I'm not going to make too much noise about 'Useful' disappearing - but it doesn't look like anyone's brought up that potential use of the 'Useful' reaction yet, so I figured I'd speak up about it.
     
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  13. spockandawe

    spockandawe soft and woolen and writhing with curiosity

    Isn't expressing that hugs are available if you want them a sentiment that's nuanced enough to just go into the thread as text? Or a sympathy reaction and a comment about hugs? We can't get a fully comprehensive reaction system, there are people who are really uncomfortable with hugs in general, and that still puts the ball in the court of the person receiving the hugs they may or many not want. 'I'm going to hug you, but you can stop me if you want' is what that feels like to me. 'I'm going to advance on you with outstretched arms and even if I don't ACTUALLY get around to touching you, I'm still moving to touch you :)'

    I just don't understand why having an affection button anyone can push is something people are getting so hung up on. Seebs already said the one thing about how unsolicited affection can be really upsetting, and putting conditionals on it doesn't stop that reaction on my end, it just makes me feel extra bad for having those emotions in the first place.

    And honestly, I'd really prefer useformative or informful to either useful or informative. Smudging definitions would really help in this case, because people's personal definitions of those exact words and the way they use them varies a lot. Ambiguity is so nice sometimes.
     
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  14. Aondeug

    Aondeug Cringe Annoying Ass Female Lobster

    People are hung up on it due to finding it comforting or liking it. At the least that's why I'd like to keep it even though I know we aren't.
     
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  15. seebs

    seebs Benevolent Dictator

    Yeah. And I want to be clear, I don't think it's wrong to like it, it's just that the forum hasn't got tools for things like "indicate preference for or against hugs".
     
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  16. Aondeug

    Aondeug Cringe Annoying Ass Female Lobster

    Yep! Which is fine with it going. Just wanted to clarify why people are upset or want to keep it or otherwise just keep talking about it. At least from my side.
     
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  17. Codeless

    Codeless Cheshire Cat

    I would btw greatly prefer we pick useful or informative, or keep both, but not smudge them. As fun as the mush words are, they are to me unusable because either i mean useful or I mean informative, but I never mean usemative because what does that even mean?
     
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  18. seebs

    seebs Benevolent Dictator

    eventually the rating scheme stabilized on "meow." "meow?" "meow!"
     
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  19. Aondeug

    Aondeug Cringe Annoying Ass Female Lobster

    please
     
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  20. emythos

    emythos Lipstick Hoarding Dragon

    Meow
     
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