NSFW RP: consent, minors, and other boundaries

all my rp subaccounts are marked 18+ now. yes, even the joke ones that even i don't think will be having any kind of sex in the near future.

 

THANK

Sorry my Red/Green colorblind lizard eyes hate the red :'(

 

I don't actually want to talk about it any more in public. I knew this must have come up because of this and I'm pissed off to be right.

 

Should we create a TCHGB thread?

 

Hey yo!
Can we maybe try to steer away from the arguing? That'd be super neat. Because if someone is feeling too unsafe to say they have concerns OOC then that is a problem! We want everyone who RPs to have fun!
The only thing I'd like to mention is that I'm super sorry, but readers have a lesser priority to that fun than the players have. If a player is uncomfortable with something happening directly or indirectly involving their characters? That's not good and we should talk about it asap and resolve the problem so everyone cna have fun again!
If someone who isn't playing and is just reading is uncomfortable then requesting spoiler tags is fine and might be necessary if someone missed something (it happens, most of us are probably sort of human adjacent :P) but people who aren't involved in a scene can't actually call for it to stop unless it's stuff like graphic sexual content in an all ages thread. But that last case is super extreme and its probably a case of 'Please use the report function'!

eta: AAAAAND I was sort of ninja'd because I type slow today. Oops! Sorry!

 

NO.

ETA: I mean you can if you want, but I refuse to participate in another public discussion regarding my arguments with FL, Ipuntya, Alix and Moogle ever again, not least because I have at least one of those individuals on permanent ignore and I won't take them off it.

 

Okay I was asleep and missed the start of this, but I have been thinking about this a lot and here's my thoughts:
It is flat out inappropriate for an adult and a minor to engage in any form of NSFW RP including gore, extreme violence and sex. It's inappropriate for an adult and a minor to RP their characters being in a NSFW relationship of any kind, even if their characters fade to black. There is a solid difference between 'picking up a book' and *directly engaging with an adult in a relationship*. This isn't being an anti, this is being legitimately majorly concerned about the safety of minors based on people being uncomfortable, past history, and a concern to establish solid boundaries so that people can continue to RP and safely know what the acceptable lines are.

It is inappropriate regardless of whether the minor or adult initiate these things. Having the content passively around, so long as NSFW content is spoilered, is fine. My suggestion would just be to make a SFW version of RP threads where people uncomfortable with sexually and violently charged atmosphere are able to take part in the activity without worrying that their boundaries will be pressed against.

 

Housekeeping thing: People started Marking 18+ in their Rp subs, which confused me cause I´d suggested Minors ann folks who want no sexy mark BUT is fair.
Would like to suggest to use A for adult or M for minor (Stolen from Moony) so it´s a little more clear, since 18+ often means NSFW.

This is relevant to me because i am an adult who does not wish to Rp sex.

 

Legit question: does that mean minors can't rp Homestuck?

 

Yeah I mentioned that in discord and shoulda posted it here. I'm good with either but A / M seems easier and less characters

 

i like 18+ because i don't think what a and m mean here is significantly clear without an explanation. whereas 18+ says something direct about age and being okay with involving sex-adjacent stuff in rping,

 

Or they can do it just with other minors? Not trying to be snarky here, just that for some settings extreme violence and gore go with the canon and some of those settings are considered appropriate for teenagers.

 

Wait, I marked all my active rp accounts but that doesn't neccesarily mean I'm okay with sex-adjacent stuff directly involving some of them, like Clover and Star, who are both 14.

 

Ok but, I am over 18 and NOT ok with RPing smut.
that´s why I suggest minor mark their accounts, and people who are no ok with sex, rather than the other way around.

 

Like, Percy Jackson and the Olympians and Heroes of Olympus aren't sexualized settings, but they can be extremely violent! And they're YA books. There's an ongoing rp on Kintsugi in that setting with teenaged characters, and I think both adults and minors play. Do the adults have to leave?

 

Potential suggestion: for those who are 18+ but don't want sexual themes at all, I think it's still valuable to indicate that they are of age, but maybe 18+/SFW?

 

ETA because I have big clunky thumbs: That "relationship" part is important. There's a difference between Dick And Jane Go To The Store and Dick And Jane Simulate A Non-Platonic Relationship.

 

What minors do with each other is their own business. It's dangerous for it to be accepted that minors and adults can participate in NSFW natured relationships in RP. More so with things of a sexual nature in particular. Pale/Ashen is fine without question I think. Red/Black - the second anybody starts moving toward fade-to-black, I would suggest pulling back and re-establishing boundaries.
Spoilered depictions of violence = fine. Extreme violence = not fine. I include in that: dismemberment, disembowling, torture. RP'ing those with a minor is inappropriate.