NSFW RP: consent, minors, and other boundaries

Ok that is NOT how imo Rp characters work RP characters are generally fictional characters, and how much of oneself one puts in them can vary greatly. I´ve RPed sex scenes with people I have had no interest in sleeping with because again, fictional characters, not me myself.

One problem is that people at least in the Rp focused drama, which is all I am talking about here, have instead of saying "I am uncomfortable with this thing and donßt want to do it" instead gone "This thing is bad and no one is allowed to do it." There´s a difference.

 

As stands, there are multiple people who feel like they cannot do that both in relation to this and wider issues and have contacted me about it to provide anonymous quotes for a thread I intend to make about boundaries and the ability to voice discomfort on the wider forum at some point in the future not right now i'm too stressed.

 

I've been watching folks champing at the bit for rules all day.

 

how does that work out in practice? do i have to ask every time i want norm to make an innuendo or crack a sexual joke? do i have to ask everyone for their permission if i'm playing both halves of a couple in the rp, and i have that couple decide to have a fade-to-black? do i let the other player(s) know that there is a chance of me doing sex-implication when i'm rping as soon as i start rping with them? do i tell everyone right off the bat that norm likes sex and likes to talk about it, and that au!temple/biff (who are not actually in any rps here yet) are a couple with a sex life, as soon as i start rping with them? what the hell am i supposed to do to make sure of that?

 

That one, yes. That's probably the best thing to do there, and also add that if anyone is uncomfortable with anything he does at their character you won't hesitate to back off. That way everyone knows the line and what to expect C:

 

@unknownanonymous you could stick it in his profile? Seems the best place to keep it so you don´t have to restate it all the time.

 

Concur.

Let folks self-organize. No mods, no masters.

 

thanks! :D

and that means that sex-implication stuff a one-player couple (like the hypothetical au!temple/biff) does as an unit (as in, temple and biff doing sex-implication at and about each other, not polying it up or cracking jokes with other characters or vaguely discussing their sex life with each other) doesn't have to be worked out with the rest of the players? or did you have a different reason for only highlighting that particular norm example from a list of examples that didn't only involve him?

i just want it to be clear what you want from me here.

thanks! :D

 

Something that might be useful to note: A lot of us, on both sides I would suspect, have some pretty bad tumblr fleas when it comes to discussing sexual stuff in fiction.

 

I don't think so! If someone expresses discomfort with specific content, maybe consider that going forward but aside from that it's just about consent, y'know? C:

 

thanks! :D

 

Slightly but not entirely off topic:
Opinions on "G" or "Gen" as a tag on RP subs of people who do not wish to RP sex? (Whther fade to black counts as sex or not might be best to aks the person in question, since adults clearly also feel differently about that)

 

At this point it seems like more rp tag options might be best. Or just wording out tags in titles (like we have been doing since this argument first started back at my honeymoon) I think a nsfw section and some of the other things we talked about / hashed out would help solve this.

I also think at this point there are two conversations going on in this thread

 

I feel that assuming people's rp characters are wholly divorced from themselves can be dangerous. I've had more than one instance where someone i thought was just playing a character was in fact playing a thinly veiled version of themselves, and thus what we RP'd they *lived* if you get my meaning. Its quite upsetting to find out when you thought you were just roleplaying two characters having sex, you were, in fact, essentially cybering with them. (Esp when you get to find out later the person was a minor & had lied!) Went so far as ppl thinking *we* were dating instead of just our characters. So i think it's better to just play it safe instead of assuming. I don't rp explicit *or* implicit sexual content without taking to my partner about it first, and figuring out our boundaries and the way they approach it. It's for my safety as much as anything tbh. (but i am jaded & overly cautious now)

 

But I think we're also talking about situations where there has been that talk.

Let's face it, I don't think agreeing that your characters have off-camera sex is something that people would Just Know was unacceptable between minor and adult. Clearly many people don't know or don't agree, so we shouldn't be acting as if it were obvious knowledge and expected. We can set that as a rule here but please, I am sick to death of people assuming You Should Know in a forum full of autistics.