NSFW RP: consent, minors, and other boundaries

to be honest I didn't mean that seebs had implied 'no romance', I was just using it as an example! Sorry for the confusion!

 

I think it's best to plan around the worst for the actual safety of all concerned, rather than bank on it never happening. Rather than going 'it should be banned', it's better to have a discussion about the risks of that situation if it occurs, and how to minimize the odds of it happening, so that it doesn't actually happen at any point and we're all left going 'if only we'd planned for this.'


Also aside from that and relative back to the broader conversation here there's some competing access needs. I proposed a thing in Harvey's thread which I'll copy here for tags people can use on their characters:
"system of 'minor player' 'adult player' 'adult player okay with sexual RP with these characters' 'adult player not okay with sexual RP with these characters' which seems like it would resolve the numerous competing access needs"

 

That has already been suggested and is being at least partially done.
People use 18+/- for adult or minor atm, and G or Gen for not ok with sex

 

harvey expressed some conflicted feelings about G or Gen for not okay with sex wrt their characters in their thread, which is why I proposed that part instead, due to the competing access needs thing.

 

Ok I´m going to be blunt, did they ask you to bring this up on their behalf? Because if not, I saw their writing and had pointed out that the ratings do not replace asking for consent. Not ok with sexual RP is way too long to put in a title, which is where it has to go because signatures are not accessible to everyone. So a replacement for G or Gen, which I would be fine with, needs to be at least that short.

ETA: I´m sorry but I´m just a little irritated with you suggesting something i had already suggested as if it was an entirely new idea. If you wanted to change one marker, please say that.

 

I said i was going to bring it up, they liked the post. I also didn't realize you personally had suggested the thing, a lot of stuff as happened in this thread. A replacement for G or Gen is what I'm suggesting, and I added the others as wider context so it wouldn't look like i was saying only the other two were needed.
ETA: I didn't mean to propose it as 'an entirely new idea', i was proposing an addendum, i apologize for framing it a way that made you think i was claiming credit for your idea.

 

I'm gonna keep banging on the USE THE REPORT BUTTON drum.

If you see something that looks skeevy and weird, get another set of eyes to look it over. I'd wager the vast majority of cases are within bounds, but we can take a look without having drama. Or just give the participants a little nudge to keep it safe without having drama.

 

Those work! Main thing is that it has to be very short since people use the titles for actual titles.

 

minors of the same age can and will simulate sex with each other online and get involved sexually irl, but it is our job as motherfucking adults to not get involved!!! adults should not be simulating sex with minors, point blank!

 

i understand what you're saying, but by saying "I'd wager the vast majority of cases are within bounds" that kinda inherently for me dismisses things ahead of time and makes me question whether anything i'm uncomfortable with is in fact something reasonable to be uncomfortable with, and then my brain goes into a loop that results in 'I'm crazy, so i'm not gonna say anything'

 

And no one ever said otherwise. Quit being a shit-stirring anti and pay attention to the conversation

 

can we really please collectively stop using 'anti' as a meaningless buzzword for 'person talking about sexual safety in ways i dont want to hear' its gettin super grating to read

 

lmao i guess I am a fucking anti, i'm anti many things, like fascism, racism, homophobia, sexism, and pedophilia.

Spoiler: for courtesy's sake

I myself was the abuser in an age gap relationship. I personally believe that had I not been involved sexually online with adults AS A KID MYSELF, this relationship wouldn't have happened. yes, i need to be accountable for my decisions, and what i did was fucked up, but it is also the adult's responsibility to not simulate sex with a minor when *they know the person is a minor*

 

Penumbra, Nobody is arguing in favour of simulating sex with a minor. We may disagree on what counts as simulating sex, but we agree that that should not happen.

 

Seebs is describing a fairly common trend he has observed in the past. Just like cT brought up "purity culture" out of nowhere, you are bringing up antis out of nowhere. It's not a gotcha buzzword with which to shut down discussion. It's a different thing that is not related to the current discussion being had.