NSFW RP: consent, minors, and other boundaries

One of the MAIN RULES of RP is - you don't tell other people how to play their character. The DM/MOD can step in if someone goes too far, but starting with "you can only RP with me if you do X Y Z and don't do A or D but sometimes you can do L" is not RP, it's writing your own story and watching other people act it out.

 

Ok i´m out for real this time. Please donßt ping me.

 

If I can tell someone to stop flirting with me in a club when I am uncomfortable, I should be able to say the same thing about someone relentlessly, obsessively pursuing a character I play.

One of the main rules of RP is not to be a boundary-stomping asshole and to discuss what's going to happen OOC beforehand, and abide by that.

 

one of the main fucking rules of consent is that you dont assume its okay to pursue people just because they havent said no yet what the fuck is this shit

 

YES - in the RP you say "get off, jerk". My objection is to the flag "can't flirt with this character"

 

This actually seems incredibly reasonable to me. "You can only RP with me if we have the same expectations going into it, and if you don't include themes that trigger or upset me." Wow so sensitive, what a bunch of special snowflakes that don't get how RP works, I guess?

Why would I say that in the RP? Why can't I tell the real person on the other side of the screen that they're making me uncomfortable and I'd like them to stop?

 

When you walk into a club you do NOT have a sign over your head saying "cannot be flirted with"

 

I do. I wear it right on my face.

 

Kay - I is bowing out. Y'all has a different view of RP than I does and we is not communicating.

 

real life cons do this, its increasingly common

also, basic fucking consent, lack of a "no" isnt a "yes"

 

Wouldn't two people playing a character pursuing another who isn't interested be playing a form of romantic rp? Therefore the "no romance" tag wouldn't apply

 

i wish people flirted with me in clubs :(

 

Yeah like, My OC Archive is married to PR's OC Index but that doesn't mean I'm romantic with him. Definitely not!

 

Like it's actually legitimately upsetting to be sideways accused of stepping on my friend's marriage, @seebs .

 

well i said i wasn't gonna get involved but plans are made to be broken i suppose!

my main concern was marking G/SFW on Karkat and Dave, and thus possibly causing people to assume that Dave and Karkat are not disgusting, vulgar shitheads who use grossout humor as a shield. i was not concerned that people wouldn't ask me for consent, i was concerned that people would assume i was toning them down/not be familiar with homestuck and assume based on the markers that they weren't quite so...like that. and then i was worried about unintentionally upsetting people who had assumed that by writing one of their extended metaphors about, i dunno, explosive diarrhea or something

tl;dr: i was worried about hurting other people, not so much of being hurt, and i will be using chiomi's NS for no sex, because that's much more clear and isn't potentially misleading about how awful my characters are

i hope that cleared everything up, i'm super low-spoons from a funeral and big apology to cody and kathy for not being clear <3

 

it's because it's their character and they don't want sex or romance arcs with their character, unrequited or otherwise. the character doesn't have to be a self-insert and it doesn't have to be counted as Actually Sex Between RPers, whatever your opinions on that, for that to be a boundary.

edit: added clarification/clause/whateverthefuck it's called, i'm sick and out of it

 

Yeah like you're allowed to clarify what kind of rp you're looking for with a character.