Super General Advice (the thread for advice without making a thread)

I think maybe you're supposed to 'balance' your meals - so add more veggies and fruits. Maybe diary, if that's possible.

 

*dairy

 

High fiber foods that aren't very calorie dense, essentially - low fat primarily because fat has more calories per gram than carbs or protein, so the same amount that it would take you to feel full has more calories to burn off. Beans and vegetables are good, lean protein, and complex carbohydrates like brown rice, oatmeal, and leafy greens. Be sure you're getting enough salt, though - messing up your electrolyte balance is really easy to do when you're dieting. This is super general advice that won't work for everyone, because everyone's needs are different, but it's a good place to start.

 

In general, it seems that reducing sugars/highly processed carbs in the diet helps to stop weight gain/support weight loss. Vegetables, legumes, lean proteins, a reasonable amount of whole grains and fruits, a moderate amount of fats, and treats in small amounts. Importantly, you want to be able to eat enough that you feel satiated, because you're not gonna feel good if you're always hungry, and you'll probably end up ""cheating"" because of it. Fiber and protein are good for helping you feel full.

Caveat: things work differently for different people. There is no one-size-fits-all solution. You might want to roughly calculate your daily calorie allowance and try to keep your intake below it (but not drastically below it, because that might prompt a starvation response). There's also the consideration that you might be a healthy weight already and not need to lose anything, so it might be worthwhile to talk to a physician before pursuing weight loss.

 

My partner is very enamoured with the Lose It! App on android, dunno about apple.

It gives nice visual grapes and piecharts on the percentage of protein/carbohydrate/fat. I think they should each make up like a third of your day to day diet???

App does the calorie counting thing but it looks fairly intuitive to put things in if you cook from scratch and has a pretty good library of store foods and you can scan barcodes for nutritional data for the app and such.

It asks you to put in your hight and weight and then tells you how many calories to cut to lose weight or how many to eat to maintain and has stuff for taking into account your daily exercise level.

It has a pair premium version but partner does not use it and so I have no info on any premium features.

 

Worth noting that calorie counting's also a good idea in the event that you're below the necessary threshold. My mom got told to count hers so she could shave off roughly 20 pounds, and found out that she was eating about half her daily allotment and she was probably retaining weight because she was in starvation mode, so she's been working herself back up to eating snacks more often to try and pull herself out of that.

 

Honestly, most of our modern food contains too much salt. Unless you stop eating all together it's not difficult to get enough salt.

 

can anyone give me a detailed description of how living with ferrets is? i'm trying to work out if my sudden urge to become a ferret parent is something i can actually do or not

 

@Ducks knows more than I do - as I understand it they are very high energy and need a lot of engagement to keep them healthy an happy, things like toys and playing with them. The other big thing I remember reading is that if it exists, your ferret will be interested in it, including electrical cords and other dangerous things. This is mostly from reading several months - a year or so ago though, so parts of it are likely incorrect.

This is where I remember reading from, with a particular quote:
"Ferret-proofing a house is a bit like preparing your home for a remarkably agile toddler and a litter of hyperactive kittens, while trying to keep out mice and snakes."

 

@littlewhitemouse if you're online, you certainly know more about living with ferrets than me. my basic impression is thy need a good amount of attention but can live in a large hutch instead of free house roaming as long as they get several hours outside of it a day, and you should seriously make sure you don't mind how much of your house will smell strongly of ferret

 

got interviewed for a gig that would pay extremely good, and i'm beginning to think maybe too good to be real
submitted my application. blah blah i have experience, can write this artcile for you.

their response was to ask me if my bid for the gig included images. i can use free domain images if i want.
this is a writing job. why are they asking that. why are they asking that now. why are they asking that in regards to my pricing for the article. why is this their only question about my ability to do this job.

also what exactly is the legality of using stock images for internet content writing in the US? i get the impression you can just go ahead and use royalty-free ones as long as you include a source as a caption.

 

theres a mosquito in my apartment but i can never find it to squish it
please help

 

I really, really, really want to take and actually complete a class through coursera, but no matter how interesting the course is or how much I enjoy it, I can't seem to stick with it longer than a couple of weeks. Any advice for finishing online classes?

 

Do you know why you can't stick with them? Advice for "I get too much anxiety to check my emails" is different from "I can't motivate myself to finish the reading" or "I literally forget I need to do it."

 

It's a mixture between difficulty motivating myself to watch the videos and take notes and forgetting about it until too late and procrastinating because I'm stressed and when I'm stressed the only thing I want to do is read fanfiction.

 

How do I let go of all resentment? How do I stop being a self centered son of a bitch? How do I stop caring about my relations to other humans?

 

uh so i've been starting to look for places to do my master's thesis and i got an email from one prof saying she talked to someone who would want to direct it and even pay me and stuff, and the place is nice and everything is cool. but I don't really like the topic that they're talking about me doing.

i don't know how to respond. how do i say uh that sounds great but if this person has literally any other project for me i'd prefer to do that? is that an ok thing to ask for? if they don't is it ok to say i'd prefer to keep searching? should i just go with what they say? i mean what do i know about what i like anyway (not much)

this topic is the one i have most experience with (about a year), but I don't actually like it that much and i'd like to not get stuck working on it forever...

help? advice?

 

Disclaimer that I have no experience with post-graduate work, but I'd say something like "I appreciate the opportunity, but I'm not sure I have the passion/interest/drive to write an entire thesis on (topic). Lately I've been more interested in (thing a, thing b, and thing c), would they have any openings in those areas?"