I just don't show empathy, but I feel it and then remember how worrying about the feelings of PPC members got me stomped on. As far as reading, I think I need to turn my font size up. (And change it to something that shows italics.)
If you get insulted when someone tells you not to bother them, you are free to tell them to discontinue contact with you, and take measures to ensure that they can no longer do so. No one is obligated to make amends with someone who has hurt them; they are, however, obligated not to torment people, no matter what those people have done.
Yeah nah her behavior was fine, you misread the fuck out of that interaction. Still nothing in need of excusing. Grow the fuck up. Harrassing people who don’t want to interact with you is bad irrespective of whether or not you care about them.
This is probably more than you deserve, but I'mma give you one more chance to read that again before I write you off as a disingenuous twat.
Here, I'll even give you another shot: quit expecting the PPC, the people you have been harassing for years over a stupid internet ban, the cater to and coddle your hurt feelings, and grow the fuck up.
This still reads like if someone knocks you over and you skin your knee, then yell "clumsy oaf" at them, they're in their right to demand an apology for the rudeness before telling the rest of the town how rude you are.
I genuinely can't tell if you're purposefully misreading me or not. If someone knocks you over and you skin your knee, you are in your right to go and put a bandage on your knee without helping them pick up the items they dropped by knocking into you. If the PPC perma-banning you for harassment hurt your feelings, they are in their right to take care of themselves without giving two shits about how you're hurt, because you hurt them.
if you get into an argument with somebody and get your feelings hurt, the person you were arguing with is under no obligation to take care of those hurt feelings for you, because chances are high they have their own hurt feelings to take care of as well. i really am not sure how to make this more clear for you.
You can get through to me by actually getting the story straight. "That guy sneered at me after I yelled at him for knocking me over." "Oh my gosh, he was so right to sneer at you. You really shouldn't yell at people."
This is actually part of the reason you have been discouraged from analogies, @Greallan : they're frequently not clear. In your analogy, you were knocked over and skinned your knee. Sure, I can roll with that. You yelled instead of taking care of yourself. Slightly rude, but normal and acceptable. I think people are still with you here. The PPC, in this analogy, sneered. That was rude of them. I think we can all agree on that. That is not contested. But I think that there we have a different understanding. You seem to be treating it as an analogy that is then over: you are talking about your original hurt. They were rude, yes. But most people are focused on the part after you got up, the part where, in this analogy, you fucking followed them home, made threatening phone calls in a variety of different voices, and stalked them for years. Your analogy did not include that part of the story. Everyone else has kind of moved on because 'kind of rude' is massively eclipsed by 'fucking awful.' You seem to be asking that the fucking awful behavior be excused because of the kind of rude. Or, somehow, you have not been paying attention and think we're still talking about whether or not it was rude? But no. No one contests that you were hurt in your interactions with the PPC. Full stop. That isn't an item that's up for discussion, because it's obvious. We agree with you. I just think your behavior after was fucking heinous and there's no excuse for it and it weirds me out that you keep trying to make excuses for it.
Also from my understanding, Greallan started the fight by being (unintentionally) racist. So it's more like she wasn't looking where she was going and knocked someone over, and in response someone pushed her over, and then the yelling and the sneering and the escalating. And we can sympathize with that, but then the stalking and harassment happens.
I'm still working on 2014 stuff. I haven't even gotten through all the debugging that needs to happen about the 2014 stuff.
What debugging, specifically, do you think you need? They were rude. There were miscommunications. You decided to wing something instead of asking for clarification, and it didn't go well. What else?
That is absolutely not true. They were hazing me, I called them on it, they denied it and made me apologize, I started venting about how I kept getting scowled at when I left the house because they would just yell at me if I talked about the issues they were causing me.
