Reporting the mods

Why should I write things again if you clearly didn't read them the first time?
I'm a busy Snitch, I got things to do.

 

'spock continues to push my buttons, therefore, self-harm' is a phrasing structure that implicitly places blame on me. You say that it's the RESULT of my actions. This is blaming me, just with a slightly indirect sentence structure.

 

I am as inexhaustible as the slow march of continents.

 

Okay, folks. This has gone far enough that I'm not willing to leave the pieces scattered. Here's the self-hostage escalation I've been dealing with over the last 48 hours, in what's hopefully chronological order. All sources are cited, but some links are to wiggler posts and won't work for most users. This hits the main points, but it isn't really everything.

1. (X) Screaming at me to let her sleep, hours after I last posted
2. (X) Blaming me for making her cry, complete with an @
3. (X) Threatening to send me videos of her self-harming every time I reply to her
4. (X) Blaming me for the quantity of alcohol she drinks, and threatening to take up smoking again because of me
5. (X) Blaming me talking to her too much for the way she's having trouble... reading? I don't know, this one is confusing, but whatever is wrong, it's apparently my fault.
6. (X) "Spock will kill me". Classic.
7. (X) Repetition of blaming me for how much she drinks every time I post, with an @ (and with an acknowledgment that this is fucked up, but she's doing it anyways)
8. (X) Explanation of "Spock will kill me", blaming me for how much she drinks
9. (X) "Spock's abuse", blaming me for how much she drinks, threatening self-harm, implying suicide
10. (added later) (X) Taking back the apology for blaming me for self-harm, again blaming me for how much she drinks
11. (added later) (X) Comparing self to a rabid dog that needs to be put down, nominally saying I'm not to blame, but that just means that [she] must have chosen to punch [herself] in the face. Also repeating that she said I wasn't to blame, ignoring the way she took that back.
    
12. (added later) (X) Phrasing things sort of like taking responsibility... except it was her for for letting me do a thing. The words still leave the blame in my hands for putting her in that position. I don't think she's following the explanations of what the words actually say.
    
13. (added later) (X) More phrasing things almost like she's taking responsibility, except still laying the blame on me.
    
14. (added later) (X) More phrasing things sort of like she's taking the responsibility, more ultimately blaming me.
    
15. (added later) (X) More of the same, referencing the self-harm video threats.

(added later) This doesn't really fit on the self-hostage list, but I think it merits inclusion here.

1. (X) Lashing out by (insincerely, obviously) claiming she wanted to bait me into committing graphic suicide.

 

"Stop calling attention to my lies!" says known liar.

 

im actively beginning to believe that the "same page" for you means a completely different book in another fucking galaxy for everyone else.

heres the page im on, plain and simple:

"the self-harm as the result of her continuing to push my buttons" is an abusive thing to say.

threatening repeatedly to harm yourself while blaming someone else for you having done so is abusive.

it is not anyones job to behave the way you want them to in fear of you up and deciding to harm yourself. holding your life and wellness hostage because you dislike that other people dont agree with you is wrong.

 

At this point, I'm pretty much out of goodwill to extend, which is hopefully understandable after that last post.

I've kind of given up hope of a coherent explanation, so I think, think that she's saying that every time I repeated 'lies', I was referring to her most recent posts, which were largely about her feelings. I was not. When I said something was false, I referred to fact claims, like 'mods wouldn't explain why they wiggled this', or 'spock got uppity about her pronouns'. I have repeated multiple times that people are not calling her a liar about her feelings. I think that's what she's accusing me of lying about.

And it isn't a lie. I've made a point of repeating that the lies I'm talking about are FACTUAL and PROVABLY UNTRUE. You can't prove what someone is feeling from across the internet. It's absurd. I wouldn't bother trying to build a case on that. But I will argue about a person saying 'you didn't do X' when I have access to history that says I completed X at whatever time/location.

It's criticism making her feel attacked and defensive, plus strong feelings affecting her memory of history. There isn't any point that someone told her she was lying about her feelings, but it doesn't feel that way, so she doesn't believe it when people tell her. Never even mind trying to order me to prove a negative. I've already cited the factual history extensively, and obviously I can't cite a factual history of the emotions she Truly Experienced, so I'm not going to bother trying. I care about the facts. I care about her not saying, again, FACTUAL, PROVABLY UNTRUE things about me. At this point, she's angry enough at me that idk if she'll be willing or able to untangle her emotions from the facts, but I'm not going to concede ground that leaves me in a place of agreeing to passively accept it when she says things that are, again, FACT CLAIMS and PROVABLY UNTRUE.