Reporting the mods

That situation, I got angry and frustrated. (Still confused on if other people can cause emotions through their actions.) I broke the rule of "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" % I let the frustration that I bottled up about that situation pop directly at the cause. No matter how out-of-control I feel, I am at fault for losing control. & I am at fault for typing out a not-nice thing when I had no clue that there was a right way and a wrong way to say it. I'm very at-fault because there was no accident in hitting "send"

& To dial this back, if someone tosses me a wool sweater, I am at-fault if I jerk away like I've been burned. I have gone through many beatings in an effort to train me not to react to things that don't bother normal people.

% This is a shitty abusive rule, but realizing that probably led to the "please stop" exploit.

 

I was meaning to come back to that. The conclusion I drew was that Spock was a more-than. While an equal can request non-communication or even digitally enforce it without given notice like I've done with Vivec and pencil-drawing guy, mods are above us so that even asking one to not communicate is overstepping one's station. I guess Chiomi leaving me alone and breaking the silence with a request to have the silence stop was an indulgence or they had their own desire for some distance.

 

Can we come back to this can of worms tomorrow? Maybe split things off?

 

.... Is time counted by exchanges or actual time? I think I woke up to her "absolutely not" and I think I'm at least at 6 hours lately.

 

lol nope.
I'm a bit fuzzy on actual details but I believe there's other people who have requested not being interacted with from certain mods and have been granted this request. The difference tends to be those people are more than happy to just mutually ignore eachother and do not use this request as a way to bad mouth people in public without them being able to respond. So like maybe think about that for a bit.

 

I was talking about Neshomeh or however it's spelled. I'm trying to actively wipe her name from my memory.

 

Close, here is a link:

Grief and Greallan

 

good idea! then you can ignore the new, split off thread forever (even better, hope that people somehow forget in that time), and stop discussion of things you cant figure out how to spin.

 

Wait, I kinda stopped reading the post where Spock thought my sock-account quip was serious. Did they admit to being Jove?

 

This is old news, but does that includde Vivec bad-mouthing me in his vent last summer and telling me to not be there at all?

I think I was making general statements about mods and Spock took it personally when I was in "treat you all as robed mystery-figures" mode. I think I did ask Spock to use a translator once I started overreacting to a tone-disfunction and again when we realizeddd that it was a tone-dysfunction.

 

Ugh, I suppose asking Snitch to stop twisting the knife would be met with some sort of "how dare you" ?

 

(Disclaimer: I'm talking about this mostly because I find it an interesting topic, but hey, I wouldn't mind getting some blood from that stone.)


It's a topic with a great deal of nuance, but in general I'd break it down into three categories:

• Bullying/abuse/antagonism: One person is clearly exerting effort to upset another one. In this case the active person would be 'in the wrong' and bare some responsibility for the upset, but not the actions of the person being abused (with the exception of actions taken in self defense or to escape).

• Enforcing boundaries: A person has a right to decide who they will associate with, the opinions they hold, control of their body, control of their things, ect. Even if they know enforcing these boundaries will cause another person distress, they have every right to do so, and don't bare any kind of responsibility for the distress.

• Triggers (for lack of a better word): Sometimes, people do things and they cause all sorts of reactions that there is no way to predict. I'll just give an example from my life: My aunt texted me to say she would miss seeing me for Thanksgiving very much, and she's looking forward to Christmas. The reason we aren't getting together is something completely out of our control, completely, 100%. I still felt horrendously guilty when I got that text, because my brain is an asshole like that. Is my aunt responsible for me feeling guilty? Of course not! There is no way she'd have been able to predict I'd feel like that, and her text was actually very sweet. When I was able to step back and calm down, I now appreciate getting it.

I'd very much like to hear other people's thoughts on this, because it's something I've had to work on myself.