Reporting the mods

The thing you said:

What I, who can read, understand it to mean: "Snitch is deliberately baiting me into sending them upsetting content".

You proceeded to insist it wasn't a threat, and only now are you even vaguely explaining what you were thinking.

You. Do. Not. Express. Yourself. Clearly.
Hell, you've made inappropriate sexual comments to me and others multiple times in the wiggler, so it wouldn't be surprising.

You're hard enough to comprehend to start with.
We have repeatedly explained ourselves very clearly in multiple different ways.

 

She's actually finished.

 

I really don't care.

I did this wiggle for a TCHGB post that I thought was in the Reporting The Mods thread or something. And then I restored the post when I realised my mistake.
And then I explained in the wiggler that that was what happened, because I didn't want to leap into the TCHGB thread.

 

It doesn't matter whether you're trying to hurt people, because if you express your hurt the way you keep trying to you will hurt people. And you've been told that. So now, you have two choices:

1. Express the hurt a different way.
2. Hurt people, knowing that you're going to, because you care less whether you hurt them than whether you have to expend even the smallest possible amount of effort.

If you pick #2, what does that tell us? That you don't object to hurting people.

Yes. That's because it is.

 

Would you care to estimate how many times you've been given the answer to this question? Like, do you think it's more than 20? Because I'm pretty sure it's more than 20.

Let's try this:

"If you do [thing], I will hurt [person]": ALWAYS A THREAT.

It does not matter whether or not the person is you.

If a thing upsets you, talk about it being upsetting. If you start talking about how it Made You Hurt Yourself, or Will Make You Hurt Yourself, that is threatening, and is going to be understood as an attempt to hurt people and force them to change their behavior. And since you have been told that it works that way, continuing to do it says you're okay with hurting people and threatening them.

Yes, you've complained about being told "don't do this" when you ask what to do. That is a real complaint, but also it turns out that it is not actually anyone's obligation to teach you this shit. And furthermore, we've tried. Dozens of times.

 

so far, your "different" ways of expressing pain have been through threats, insults, or manipulation.

try something small like "hey, i'm hurting right now, i'm going to take a break", or "what you're saying right now/about [topic] is upsetting to me." you don't need to go into details of how you feel or what those feelings make you want to do. simply saying that youre hurting/tired/upset is fine.

 

@Athol Magarac there have been multiple instances where we have said 'expressing it this way is good' or given concrete ideas for how an existing post could be modified to be let through, usually by cutting out the most obvious abuse. Again, it's a you problem if you're not reading any of it.

Also, you don't tend to frame it as you're upset, you tend to frame it as 'someone is doing a thing which is upsetting,' which is about the other person's behavior.

@Kathy Jones I am glad that you were able to provide an outside opinion and hope you're okay. Also I don't think I've ever felt so immediately horrified as when getting that many notifications for the Wiggler.

 

The part where you are implicitly blaming them for your choices and actions, and making it their fault that you are doing this, and suggesting that if they continue doing whatever thing, you'll keep doing your thing and it'll be their fault.

Again, it doesn't matter whether you intend this. What matters is that it communicates that, and you've been told about this, and you don't care enough to change your behavior. We've been having this exact conversation for at least a month now, and I think longer, and we've told you many times how to avoid it, and why it's a problem.

 

no one said this. stop it.