Reporting the mods

This is too complicated.

No.

That's it. That's your problem, right there. No, you would not be in the right to say nasty stuff. Stop it. It isn't going to become okay. It doesn't matter why you think it's become okay. It's not okay. It's never okay.

 

What about them?

Eight fucking pages of threads. 149 threads. 149 wiggled posts. And of those, there's... maybe three or five or something where we maybe made mistakes. At least two of them, we've said "whoops, that was an error" and restored the posts.

That leaves >140 posts where you said horrible, nasty, abusive, things, and we tried to prevent that from hurting you or other people, and you got mad and said you didn't understand why, and yelled at us for telling you why, and yelled at us for not telling you why, and ignored it when we told you why, and complained about how unfair and abusive we were being, and said that we were "abusing you behind closed doors", and you've now had two people go through the posts and look at them and review them, and both of those people have concluded that the problem is that you post nasty shit and expect us to pretend otherwise.

This is not a "both sides" issue. This is you being in the wrong >95% of the time, and acting like you're the victim, and telling everyone that you think the mods are "abusing you behind closed doors" so you can trigger and terrify the abuse victims, and accuse the victims of actual behind-closed-doors abuse of abusing you, and all of this just so you can pretend that maybe the problem is really everything but you.

The reality is: If the >95% of cases where the problem is you being cruel or abusive weren't happening, there wouldn't be any problems. We wouldn't be having to wade through piles of nasty bullshit and sometimes missing a post that is only sort of questionable rather than outright horrible. You wouldn't be on post mod, because you wouldn't be hurting people enough to justify the effort. You'd just be having fun hanging out and chatting with people and it would all be fine.

And all you have to do to get there is stop being cruel.

 

no, not at all. it's not okay. you cannot, and will not find a situation where treating other people horribly will EVER be okay.

if a mod is wrong and you happen to prove it, the mod involved will admit to that. this has happened before.

you, on the other hand, lie and try to find ways to blame other people for you being wrong. you have also done this before.

 

no one calls you nasty things when you get pronouns wrong.

 

I have not seen a single post to you on the topic which came even close to "saying nasty stuff". People are not in the wrong to correct you or point out that your behavior is rude and shows contempt for other people. They would be in the wrong to say nasty stuff to you, but I don't think they have.

That is the big problem. You say that someone deserves to die an undignified death, or that you want them to suffer, or anything like that, and it seems 100% reasonable to you. Other people state, politely and courteously, that your behavior is rude, and you think they are being very nasty and cruel.

The inequality is in your interpretation of things. In your head, anything that makes you even consider feeling bad is Very Mean. Anything you really feel like saying is completely reasonable and justified, and not mean.

 

To be clear, calling a bigot a bigot is not "calling them nasty things."

That thread in the wriggler where you called the mods the C word? That's calling people nasty things.

 

No, we couldn't, because you're objectively wrong.

If you called someone an "ASS-SHICKING HIPPO", it would be reasonable for us to say "that is at least intended to be insulting". If you say "I am not trying to be insulting", and then use language like that, or call people cuss words, then we can say "if you didn't intend to be insulting, you need to pick different words".

Words mean things! You can be wrong about what words mean. And, since you're drunk and mentally ill, that actually comes up a lot.

 

being a bigot is awful, but with understanding and reading other people's posts, and not forcing other people to be nice to you or else you'll go back to being openly bigoted, you can learn to Not be a bigot.

being called a bigot is not a thing that other people say for the express purpose of being nasty to you. its an observation of how you treat people.