Reporting the mods

http://www.threepanelsoul.com/comic/on-the-ergonomics-of-babies The specific something I'm thinking of happened in the wiggler. That's this part. "I say "this exists" without saying that I'm a fencesitter on the disagreement side, suddenly I'm fully supporting the thing that I mentioned."

I'm afraid I'm not sure which "issues i'm thinking of that you brought up" you are talking about.

 

Just taking a small break because my foot hurts. Still have to go back to page 14. What would happen if I just walked away from this thread completely? I feel like many times before I expressed my issues with asking for a ban. I will not conscent to that because it would be too upsetting.

 

You can do that if you want. People still have the right to point out when you're doing abusive things in the avenues you do them in, but you can leave this thread whenever you choose.

 

Breaks are good. However, you already know what would happen, and bringing up “teehee I’ll never agree to a ban option that I’d have complete control of~” isn’t going to get you off the hook, either.

ETA: I agree with Beldaran. This wasn’t supposed to be about you, so tap out. For your own sake, considering how much stress it’s causing you.

 

okay. take your time.

real talk, i would be incredibly fucking pissed. it would feel like you're just trying to ignore all the harm you've done and avoid taking responsibility for your actions.

whatever. you've also said you wished you could get a temp ban. i don't actually care either way, but ftr kintsugi's whole, entire premise is we don't ban people, even when there's people i really, really wish would be banned, so. you're probably fine there.

 

I’d be pissed, too, but that’s all she does. Reality is too much for her to handle, so she doesn’t, and it’ll probably stay that way until she gets help and gets sober. Which isn’t gonna happen if she stays bogged with this.

I personally just refuse to be the one to walk away.

 

Adding to that thought:

I refuse to do that because I feel that’s really the only recourse I have since I’m never going to get that apology, and I feel that it’s pretty much the only way any of us are actually going to get her to cool it— refuse to bend reality to what she wants, and either she’ll deal or she won’t.

 

Once I tie up some loose ends, I'll do that.

Can you retitle this one as a derailment and restart the thread without using a quote from me, or otherwise specifying that the new thread is not about me in particular even though I was the example?

That's the way I feel about other people in this situation. Yes, I do read tone wrong and get angry but other people are reading my stuff in ways I don't expect. I feel like the rules of a situation change so that everything bad can be blamed on me. "I didn't get your meaning, you should have been clearer. You didn't get my meaning, you should have actually read what I said."

I think that my foot may be broken, or just severely injured, and while I might have missing time from last night, I didn't feel it when I got up this morning. I sympathize with you being pissed at what it looks like, but honestly having everyone wear me down until I take responsibility for things that I didn't do isn't going to do anyone any favors.

 

we want you to take responsibility for the actual documented abuse you have done oh my god.

That said. Go to the doctor and get your foot treated.

 

See the solution and refuse to back down... Yeah, other than some loose ends, chances are that I should ignore anything beyond tonight until I've been sober for a bit.

Hop over to the TCHGB thread. The responses might not be instant, but I'll do what I can without going into meltdown. I would have apologized already except I was afraid of screwing it up.

 

Negl, laughed so hard I snorted my coffee. You are absolutely hilarious.

That you didn’t do? Oh noooooo we were fooling with you all along???

Seriously, go see a doctor.

 

If we limit it to that, things should go so much smoother.

The foot will have to wait until tomorrow. Otherwise it will require walking in the cold, in boots that I haven't broken in yet.

 

See the solution and refuse to back down? Yup. Pretty much. I’m not backing down from the fact that you’re abusive and that you hurt me and you hurt others. Good to know we’re on the same page.

Would have apologized? Afraid you would have screwed it up? That’s a valid feeling, but, you know what?

Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.

No and kindly miss me with that load of bullshit. I don’t plan to cater to you. Especially not when you’re making excuses. You want to apologize? You do it here, on my terms, because I am so fucking done you have no idea.

 

A few years. Can I please have that long? I'm still working on the reasonable part. A couple months ago, actually being serious about caring about pronouns was a strange concept to me.

Yes I'm a bit on the transphobic side and working on that too. If by "actively refuse to change your language" you mean not putting in the amount of effort to get the results y'all want, I'm feeling very dis... discouraged? It's like angry hopelessness.

I feel erased every time I try to talk about how dehumanized I feel and get dismissed because people think I'm just manipulating them into not doing the thing that prompts me feeling not a person. I feel like other people are allowed to do it to me because I'm too far into the cishet range to matter.

What it looks like isn't what it is. Or are you going to accuse me of not liking Pal because I keep forgetting that he's not a girl and keep using feminine pronouns? Spock's a she, right? I've been drilling on that one and I think I managed to use it today when using "they" just got too awkward. It's easier to call Jove a "they" because I don't have a guess on the pronoun and I'm guaranteed to get it wrong.

How do you manage to get pronouns wrong for yourself? Or your spouse unless they keep changing their mind? That seems like an affectation so you don't get scolded for pronoun trouble.