Relationship help

Discussion in 'General Advice' started by Whoops, Apr 4, 2017.

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Oops I feelingsed what should I do

  1. Just say it bluntly

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  2. Say it in a romantic moment (which I will describe in a reply)

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  3. Wait a while

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  4. Something else I'll explain in a reply

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  1. Whoops

    Whoops enough

    i was drunk and was like, a single millimeter away from dropping the DREADED FEELINGS WORD to my so tonight. In a really obvious way. And this isn't the first time I've kind of considered saying it but haven't had the mood (or the balls, maybe) right to admit it.

    What is a feeling and can I eat it aka please help me stop panicking and maybe figure out how to say it in a not-inebriated way?
     
  2. Alaspooralice

    Alaspooralice An actual trash fire

    I don't think anything bad will happen if you just say the feelings to your so. I kind of accidentally blurted it out to my bf and he said the things like 3 days into the relationship and it wasn't too awkward in either case!
     
  3. Artemis

    Artemis i, an asexual moron

    I have several friends who treat The Word as a very serious thing.

    I use The Word pretty much instantly as soon as I feel that way, around both friends and partners, platonically and romantically, because if I feel it why wouldn't I say it???

    You would know better than us whether your SO is likely to feel about feelings, I think, but just based on personal opinion, I have no idea what the harm in telling them is.
     
  4. Whoops

    Whoops enough

    Well it was really obvious that was the word I was gonna say, and he indicated in the middle of my inebriated flailing about the fact that I almost said it that he would probably reciprocate and we've already said things along those lines to each other, but not the actual word. And I know treat it more seriously than most people, but it's just, been a really long time since I've gotten to the point where I consider saying that to someone.

    So it's probably more how do I get over my own anxiety about it because I am honestly my own worst enemy when it comes to this sort of thing.
     
  5. Alaspooralice

    Alaspooralice An actual trash fire

    Ah ok, that is kinda hard, I just got to a point where I really felt it and so I just blurted it out. But after the first time I find t is easier to say again!
     
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  6. Whoops

    Whoops enough

    That last part's reassuring at least :P
     
  7. emythos

    emythos Lipstick Hoarding Dragon

    I honestly just tell everyone i love them at all times
    i told my boyfriend i loved him BEFORE we started dating
    the best thing to do is probs just say it
     
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