i've got a bit of a speech impediment, but i can keep it mostly under control if i watch myself. sometimes i forget or get caught up in something, though, and end up flubbing words. my dad likes to point out my slipups to everyone and laugh, cuz sometimes the flubs come out pretty funny i know there's no malice behind it, he's not a mean guy, but. it really does bug me? i told him that i didn't really think it was all that funny a day or so back and my family looked at me like i was nutso and told me that i was being overly sensitive, which i can totally see, i've snapped at my sib for singing in the car god only knows how many times. just trying to gauge how irrational being pissy about this is, i guess?
mocking someone's speech impediment is a dick move. if you thought it was funny, you could give him a pass, but that's your decision, not anyone else's. since you don't like it, he shouldn't be doing it. if he can't seem to grasp that, you could always try retorting to his teasing with something like "haha, check out this tryhard, he thinks making fun of people's speech impediments is cool, what a knee-slapper!" and if he objects, "don't be so sensitive!"
i don't think that i'm actually supposed to acknowledge that the speech impediment's an issue, because i'm Too Smart to have one and it's a Kid Thing? so that might be more trouble than it's worth+mouth sounds get more garbled when i'm called out because i start focusing on being ashamed of myself instead of en-un-ci-a-ting and keeping words from swapping out unexpected, but i could maybe text him? (he doesn't respect the validity of it as much as face-to-face convos but we've managed to iron some stuff out like that in the past, and then my mum can't interject and steer the convo into These Are All The Ways You Suck And You're Too Smart To Do Any Of Them On Accident So Clearly You're Being A Failure To Spite Me territory)
well, now it's starting to sound like making fun of your speech impediment is just the tip of a big asshole iceberg that includes your mom too. :/
they're not really assholes, i know they're trying, i'm just kinda a disappointment in a lot of ways and it's gotta be really frustrating for them, ahaha. and mum can get a bit caught up in things when she's in a mood. dad defers to her in most things, which can be tough because he'll take stuff back after they talk and i'm never really sure where i stand (we DO have issues, ngl, but they expected one thing when they had a kid and i am. i am not that thing, i prove myself to be even less that thing as time goes on and it's not great to deal with i don't think. they do a lot for me anyway tho, and p clearly love me and are cool ppl in their own right so i've got no reason to completely write them off) nice to know that at least one other person seems to think that it's not completely bonkers to get a lil fucked up over, tho. means it can't be totally out of left field 8P
Fiance has some speech impediment issues too and he gets flustered if I giggle at a particularly cute verbal misstep. I don't mean to be a dick, but I do giggle about it sometimes. ;; I don't point it out but I do maybe giggle a bit and pet him. D: He's never told me to stop, at least. If he did, I would -- it's really fucked up to laugh at someone who isn't doing the thing in question on purpose. Yeah, I don't think you're overreacting at all, fwiw. <3
couple days back i was trying to say 'furnish' and somehow ended up with 'fuck' because they both start with an f sound i guess?? and that was pretty funny but if i spend 30 seconds determinedly trying to spit a word or phrase out i am. probably not going to appreciate you stopping the convo dead so that everyone in the vicinity can be made aware of how shitty i am at this extremely basic thing
Yeah I second Jesse. Pointing out mistakes that you can't help is a dickish move, espcially if you don't like it.
wow dude making you feel like a failure and a disappointment just for existing is the biggest dick move a parent can ever pull if you can't unpack it now i dig, but file it, cuz you will need to be dragging miles of this out of you in therapy later D:
to be fair i kinda really went for the gold there??? i don't talk right or act right all the way even though i got lessons, no energy for school ever and marks that reflect that, transboy when mum specifically went for daughters, like five different brain things that i don't deal with well enough not to inconvenience the fuck outta people
Yeah . . . illness (even brain illness) is not actually your fault, despite rather Victorian ideas about walking in the rain being an absolutely surefire way to get pneumonia. Also, I also have a speech impediment! I went to speech therapy as a kid, and it's mostly gone except when I'm stressed, which I probably would be in the presence of someone who routinely mocked my speech. I have three consecutive semesters on the Dean's List of my university, a shot at an excellent grad school program, a terrifying laundry list of other ways in which I'm great, and a speech impediment. Not talking right is not a failure and your parents are dicks. (also it maybe sounds like you have depression, which exacerbates everything else, and might be worth looking at getting treated better than whatever help you're getting now)
Your dad is a jerk. Why would you mock your child's speech issues in public? Wtf? That's not cool at all. I am sorry that's happening. :( Also parents are not automatically owed the perfect child they want. If someone decides to have a child, it should be pretty much "whoever you are we'll take care of you", because it's a lottery. It's not the Oscars. There's nothing lesser about you just because you have things that make life harder for you.
