Basically asking for a quick reality check here, just to be on the safe side: There's this cute girl who works behind the counter at the local pharmacy, but I have no idea if she's into girls in general, let alone me specifically. I want to flirt with her, but I emphatically don't want to be that asshole who hits on someone while they're at work and therefore can't get away. The logical extension of this seems like 'flirt with her when she's not at work', but I don't know when her shift ends and just hanging out waiting for her to leave also seems pretty creepy in it's own right. My plan is to discreetly slip her a note with my phone number and some variant on 'I think you're cute, feel free to call me sometime if you want, it's cool if you're not into that, though, just toss the note and I won't bug you'. And also only do that when there aren't any other customers around and walk out of the store as soon as I hand it to her, so there isn't the social pressure to say something to me. That way, I've given her the ability to contact me if she actually wants to talk, but she also has the option of ignoring it if it's not something she wants to deal with. Then if she does decide to call we'll be talking in a non-work setting where she can say 'fuck off and die' if that's what she really feels without worrying about getting fired, and I can flirt without worrying about making her uncomfortable. So if she calls and says yes, I can invite her out to lunch or something. If she calls and says no, I politely accept that and move on with my life. If she never calls, I'll just never bring it up again and not make any further moves. Does this seem like a good idea, or do you guys think I should reconsider?
This move got me a date at the grocery store! On the flipside, I just watched a guy get a "talking to" from my manager after handing a cashier his number. There was an age difference... sigh. But I think you'll be fine, esp with your note about how you'd respect her boundaries if there were no interest. One thing I would make clear in your note is that you are interested in dating and not just a hookup. So instead of "I think you're cute", I'd say "I always love talking to you and think you're cute" or something.
I have no advice, as I live in an area that is rather unfriendly when it comes to the less welcoming folks, but I support you with good luck and sympathize heavily with relatable feelings. why are girls so cute
