As per the title. We were never very close, but it's still pretty awful. Does anyone have any resources for this that they can recommend, like good sites for information or caretakers? Thanks.
I don't really have much in the way of resources, but sympathy Jedi hugs if you want them. My own grandmother's heading down, if not the same route, then a pretty similar one and most of the family (outside of at least my mom, who gave me a very appreciated heads-up about it when I went to visit this summer) is sort of in denial about it since she's always been a good conversationalist and can still verbally fake that she knows exactly what's going on and it's not like my dad or uncles are exactly stepping into the kitchen to lend a hand (and, thus, see that she's getting lost in her own kitchen while trying to make tea for everyone). And my grandfather is...reluctant to admit that anything's different, since my grandmother can still talk just fine about events she remembers from forty years ago. (She just doesn't remember what you said five minutes ago, and like hell she'll admit it.) You're right: it's awful, and it's...honestly pretty terrifying to me. What I can recommend is that if no one else in your family has brought it up (although the fact that you're asking about caretakers is a good sign, probably), check to see if your grandmother has a will written yet and check to see who's got power of attorney and if PoA and medical PoA are split. Now is also, unfortunately, the time when your family really needs to start having the discussions no one wants, about grandma's quality of life and everything that follows from there.
Dementia is is bitch. Tbh it comes down to how much you honestly care about her. Did she invest in a good relationship with you?
witnessed. I don't really have any links to provide, but at least 2 of my grandparents had severe dementia when they died, and the remaining one is having the general memory and confusion issues that come with old age. it's a rough ride, and the more people there are to provide support, the better. if your grandma is still lucid enough to convey her wishes about all of this, that should be established as soon as possible.
