As the title says. Read at own risk. Spoiler: Gross unsanitary stuff I... think I just saw grandma peeing into a bowl and emptying it into the kitchen sink. One of those bowls that we eat from. I mean, I came downstairs to feed the cat and I see her with a bowl full of yellow liquid and her holding it under her skirt, and when I asked her what's in the bowl, she was kinda panicky. I asked her what's in the bowl, she said it's water. Asked again, what's REALLY in the bowl. "Leave me alone!". I asked her to at least NOT PUT the bowl with the rest of kitchenware. "Why?????" She put it there anyway. Not sure if I want to throw up or cry. Probably both. For how long has she been doing this? I've seen her peeing on her burns before, but this is new. I don't know what to do about this. I lost all appetite. My brother will probably stop eating at home if I tell him. Mom will probably be mad at grandma and I don't wanna hear any more screaming matches between those two. Dad will think I'm making shit up/won't care. I can't just NOT do anything about this. But what do I do though? I have no idea.
Dude, I really don't know, since it sounds like no one else in the family is willing to help handle it. Is there an aunt or uncle who would be better than your parents about this? Because I agree that screaming and getting mad won't help, and neither will dismissing it.
I just talked about this with mom. Guess what. SHE KNEW ALL ALONG. Spoiler She knew all along that grandma pisses in kitchenware and that's why she always puts those bowls away from the sink. All this time, she knew and she deliberately kept is a secret from all of us. Gee if I only knew WHY those bowls need to be hidden I wouldn't leave them next to the sink. YOU COULD'VE JUST TOLD ME. FUCK. @Artemis thank you for your response, unfortunately most of my family is either batshit insane or/and has communication skills of a dead fish orz I only have one legit nice and chill uncle and I've been seriously considering moving into his house for a week or two to take a break from this shitshow.
I. What even. If your uncle is cool with it, I would be very supportive of spending some time at his house.
D: I don't understand, WHY is she peeing in bowls? Is the toilet not an option for her for some reason?
We have two toilets, one downstairs and one upstairs, both easily accessible. She is disabled and has trouble walking, but in familiar environment she moves around just fine and I have personally seen her walk to the toilet whenever she needed to use it. Maybe now she thinks it's too much of a hassle. I dunno. Oh, and you can't ask her about it either. You'll get either denial or hysterical tantrum and threats of self-harm. Fun times all around.
Oh, dear... I'm so sorry, dude. I can't help but feel bad for her too. Something is not right. This sort of behavior is what I would see in residents with dementia back when I was a CNA.
It definitely looks like dementia and I feel bad for her too, but I'd be way more sympathetic if she hadn't abused me emotionally even since I was a little kid. At this point I'm just numb to her hysterical noises 80% of the time.
God. Yeah, I don't mean to downplay how it sucks for you, and you have all the right in the world not to be more sympathetic. Mostly I'm just aghast at your mom for going along with this. Like holy hell.
Yeah, I'm shocked too. I didn't know she would go THAT far to conceal the truth. Clearly I have underestimated her role in the THIS IS FINE act :/ Thank you for hearing me out though, I really appreciate it.
As another person with a demented and (formerly, she can't remember how to be horrible) emotionally abusive relative, witnessed. :( Seconding the suggestion to go elsewhere for a bit if you can.
