kay so last year i was in a skype chat group. it was v good. then one person in it suggested we all go join this other chat group on the same topic. this turned out to be a great idea. all the fictional neat stuff we had ballooned wonderfully into the sort of grossly tangled epic one can only get from these kinds of chats. things proceeded very well until... well, maybe three days ago. intermittently we add new people. we had added someone new only a week or two previously and they had settled in immediately, become super part of the group v quickly, all good. then another new person was added, bout three or four days ago. this new person? does not fit in good. their characters don't quite fit and their headcanons don't quite fit and people find them difficult to talk to sometimes. we are mostly a group of folks who are kind of fucked inna head so of course people are getting really upset about this. and i don't know what to do. i don't want this group to fall apart, i love them and i love what we do and i can't. handle losing another group universe after i lost the one i had with my ex last june. i don't want my friends to be upset. i just want the new person to go away but that would upset the friend whose friend they are and who added them originally. i can't ask my friend to choose, they're so lovely. i've thought about just suggesting we make a new chatroom sans that person but that would be? worse almost like we were going behind their back. i hate it, everything is as it usually is and we're doing awesome porn or whatever and then the new person rolls up into the chat and everything just gets difficult because it feels like things are going to inevitably go sour. i just. i keep hoping that things will settle down but i'm so afraid they won't i hate change. i hate having to be resigned to my friend groups falling apart and everyone leaving me. i hate it. i hate it.
