So, I have been reading about how you do not JADE if you have to interact with a Narc, and it seems logical to me, and I would very much like to follow this advice. The problem is... I'm incredibly stubborn, rebellious, snappish little shit with little to no self-preservation when it comes to people who treat me like shit. And I have this constant fear, that if I'll be nice to them, they will immediately take advantage of that and use me. What do? How do I learn to not JADE if I'm like this? It's my father's name day tomorrow and I guess there will be a family gathering and the pressure to Be Nice is not helping either, as all my instincts go "FUCK THE SYSTEM FUCK THE FAMILY VALUES FUCK EVERYTHING DON'T TOUCH ME I'LL BITE YOUR FINGERS OFF AND SPIT THEM OUT IN FRONT OF YOUR CRYING CHILDREN". (No, I'm not actually a violent person irl, I just have had incredibly violent thoughts for as long as I remember.) What do?
What is JADE? I hope you don't mind me asking, but I don't know what the term means so I don't know if I can offer advice or not.
