Does anyone have any advice for being angry all the time? I saw someone who was responsible for something a long time ago that screwed me up and suddenly thought "How about round four?" until my rational self was like "What the fuck is wrong with you? This isn't a problem anymore." and now I'm just sitting here seething, feeling as if I'm unable to do anything because of it. Even though reasonably, there's nothing to be afraid of/pissed at any longer. I 'won' or something like that.
Anger is hard to sustain forever (takes too much energy) so it should wear off on its own in time. Do whatever soothes you or makes you happy - hobbies, friends, exercise, good food. Give yourself permission to spoil yourself for a few days. Emotions don't have to be reasonable. It can take awhile to move past something. Clearly whatever happened still affects you at a deeper level. Just because you "won" doesn't mean you escaped unharmed. Take some time to process the thoughts that are coming along with the anger instead of trying to shut them down. Are any of them intrusive? Circling over and over again? Bringing up other painful emotions? They'll help you find out what is still bothering you about the event or this individual. Talk to a trusted loved one or therapist.
I talk to myself about it 'why is this making me angry? Have I considered other ways to look at it?' of course, sometimes that makes me angry, but Anger is hard to maintain when you're tired. Examining things until I am either too mad to think and then too tired to be mad, or have figured out why I'm mad and done something. I also laugh when I'm mad about something and I don't even know why
In the short term, I remain extremely angry for things for six hour periods at a time. Usually, it subsides after I finally go to bed but it returns the next time I see something relevant to what I was pissed off about. Typically, associated with something that I enjoyed doing at some point. I guess the thoughts aren't really coherent. More like a general feeling of being angry and thoughts of what to do about it. Most of them are vengeful in nature and I can't do that because there's a certain point in time where it stops being understandable and starts being dickish. And the only long-lasting effect I can think of is that I had quite writing for two years but I've started up again in the past few months. I guess that they faced any repercussions for their actions? But, the case was that everyone else was involved faced them as the result of someone who was acting on my behalf and so I shouldn't have any reason to be angry. That's good enough. This is a problem I have often. I can't get to a therapist and I don't have anyone who I can talk to. Sorry, that I'm not helpful.
