Is it normal to worry that you're pregnant even when youre not sexually active?

Weird question i know
So this week i've had TWO people ask if i was pregnant.
i've gained some weight recently and because of my figure, a lot of it ended up on my boobs. Said increase in size has also made them starts hurting. People keep asking if i am.

I'm definitely not.
I've never even had sex.
But my stupid ultra irrational, ultra traumatizing anxiety disorder keeps going "but, but, but..."

I know im not but i'm so close to buying a pregnancy test just to shut up the stupid voice in the back of my head. the thing is i can't because my also anxiety driven grandmother goes through the trash. (she "sorts" it.)
my brain is so messed up...
this can't be freaking normal.

 

I'm not sure if this is normal, but I get this occasionally? Worries about being pregnant even though it's like I haven't had sex in years.

 

First of all, wow... they were being rude.

Second, though maybe not... normal? It's super, super common. Almost every AFAB person I know, NT and otherwise, has had this at some point, regardless of possibility. Is there a public restroom you can use to pee? Sometimes, when it's something like this, it's just better to soothe the 'what if though?' instead of trying to argue with it, it's like a kid, sometimes it just won't see reason. I like to pick my battles, personally. Sure, I'll argue with the 'what if though?' if it's telling me some truly irrational stuff like 'you're an objectively bad person', but I'll give in to 'hey, did you lock the door? Are you SURE?' because it's just not worth it.

 

This reminds me of that one time way back in middle school when another student randomly asked if I was pregnant.. (literally the only part of me that's chubby is my tummy whoops)

I agree that the people assuming that were rude, whether intentional or not. If you know for sure that nothing's happened for it to be possible, then keep reminding yourself of that.

Hope you feel better soon.

 

I got this for years and years, omg. (It was confounded for me by 1) my parents not really explaining this shit and 2) insistence in the Immaculate Conception, so... paranoia)

 

I've had this. Not fun.

 

I have also had this. How far away are you from your next shark week? That usually clinched it for me...

 

I don't know many afab people who don't do this, actually. It's hammered home so relentlessly as 'the worst thing that can happen to a young woman' and 'the worst mistake you can make' and 'the thing that hasn't happened to you, RIGHT' that most everyone I know worries about it whether they have cause to or not. Combined with the taboo nature of sex ed (at least in my country) and the fanaticism about sex itself, which makes it stick in your head, and most afab people end up worrying about it when something seems wrong whether it's sensible or not. We're supposed to worry about it obsessively, people keep fucking warning us about it and making sure we know we'll be bad people if it happens.

My girlfriend gets this paranoia despite being, like, -300 chance of pregnancy, and she often chews on parsley (or other folk remedies means to stifle or abort pregnancy) just to keep her mind calm. Be careful with things like that, though--they're folk remedies because they can work and relentless chewing on parsley will make your stomach very mad at you.

 

Urgh, yes, the whole story of Jesus's conception definitely contributed to my irrationally fearing I was pregnant at random times, even before I started menstruating. (I knew it was biologically impossible, but that wouldn't stop an omnipotent being!) It really didn't help that I was a sharp but literal-minded kid who paid attention during Christmas services, and noticed that (a) in the text of the bible that was read Mary was never given a choice, and (b) Joseph assumed She'd Done Bad Stuff and was going to divorce her until an angel stepped in and said "Don't worry, she's not a Fallen Woman."

(And if I may continue to be literally-minded... Technically, Mary's conception is the Catholic canonical Immaculate Conception, meaning somehow she was conceived without Original Sin. IIRC it's a doctrine the Church came up with once the western world had figured out that uterus-havers contribute more to their offspring than just incubation time, to ensure Jesus didn't inherit original sin from his mom.)