this site.

Discussion in 'Howdy there!' started by townghost, May 2, 2020.

  1. townghost

    townghost mystery crab

    i’m so disappointed.

    i should have better standards for this.

    in a way, i want people to talk to.
    but i also feel like i’m degrading myself by going to a place where i’m not respected.

    i request to be taken off post mod in exchange that we don’t talk about what happened before.

    but i’m also sorry for saying jack doesn’t have a dick. that’s rude and cheap. but i also don’t appreciate being casually disrespected. so i thought it was fair at the time. but that kind of thing can stick with you.

    i had the idea that with the way people can actually discuss and process issues in this site what i had to say would be well respected. but i don’t have any hope for that at this point. i was directing my feelings toward action again which is a major problem i have.
     
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  2. Chiomi

    Chiomi Master of Disaster

    Okay, first, welcome back.

    Second, that's not . . . that's not an exchange that works. History erasing was one of the reasons that your continued post moderation was considered a positive. We can just not talk about it, sure, that's valid if you don't want to bring it up, and I know I at least can agree to not bring things from the past up.

    I also, aside from not being able to, mechanically, take you off post mod, continue to think it would be a bad idea. Especially if you think the site in general is bad for you, beneath you, and hopeless - that does not seem like a recipe for interactions that would go well for everyone, and a moderator putting eyes on a post first seems like it would be a good way to curb some of what might harm other people.

    edit: finished the last sentence
     
    Last edited: May 3, 2020
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  3. townghost

    townghost mystery crab

    what is history erasing
     
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  4. No?No.

    No?No. incognito

    It's you going 'that never happened' when we have concrete written evidence that it did happen, and that it did happen exactly like we said it did.
     
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  5. uh hi welcome back but also if you're "disappointed" abt coming back and feel you won't be respected then why. are you coming back in the first place.
     
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  6. Maya

    Maya smug_anime_girl.jpg

    Yeah, same question. I sympathize with the need to interact with people but the whole point is that those interactions are healthy, which they clearly aren't for you on this site. So I have to wonder why you continue bashing your head against the wall here hoping it's going to budge, because, like... it's not, I don't know what to tell you. There are probably plenty of places out on the internet that can facilitate the communication you clearly need without that communication being constantly antagonistic and stressful.
     
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  7. Petra

    Petra space case

    FWIW I feel like it's fair to say you don't want to get back into the same arguments you left on, people are just blinking at asking to pretend it didn't happen, since that's a loaded framing that's been used against people here. Good luck.
     
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  8. townghost

    townghost mystery crab

    honestly i just comment on youtube
     
  9. Petra

    Petra space case

    No shade, but youtube comments seem like a very unlikely place to find meaningful and effective interaction. Like, it's happened, but not often.
     
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  10. vuatson

    vuatson [delurks]

    even reddit would be better
     
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  11. townghost

    townghost mystery crab

    ok


    what’s history editing
     
  12. No?No.

    No?No. incognito

    Ah, we're right back to trolling I see.
     
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  13. Maya

    Maya smug_anime_girl.jpg

  14. context-free anon

    context-free anon Well-Known Member

     
  15. townghost

    townghost mystery crab

    ok well that doesn’t apply here so it’s not a problem. so with that in mind, what is the actual problem
     
  16. townghost

    townghost mystery crab

    also people who i have on ignore should just not reply to me. that includes maya and nono
     
  17. townghost

    townghost mystery crab

    if you don’t respect someone and are casually rude to them, you should probably just restrain yourself from replying. that is what i would consider trolling. if your only intention is to be smug and rude, and you have a history of being smug and rude to that person, asking them to see and interact with you is going to create unnecessary tension. so if i have you on ignore, and you continue to reply to me, the outcome will most likely not be the best.
     
  18. townghost

    townghost mystery crab

    i wanna explain something about how i communicate. so when i hear somebody, i care less about the words you say than the emotions behind them. so when you respond to me and the vibes you are giving off are utter disrespect, i will either not respond to you at all or go into full verbal attack mode until you either fuck off or change your attitude. i will most likely ignore people who include smug jabs or seem sarcastic in their wording to me. if i didn’t do that i failed to uphold my own boundary. that’s why i seem disappointed in myself here. but i’m sure people will learn me eventually
     
  19. townghost

    townghost mystery crab

    i also just wanna be in a community with some of the same people because in most of the internet there’s like 2 million people viewing each comment and there’s no context or history for anything
     
  20. Maya

    Maya smug_anime_girl.jpg

    literally how does that not apply here
     
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