i’m so disappointed. i should have better standards for this. in a way, i want people to talk to. but i also feel like i’m degrading myself by going to a place where i’m not respected. i request to be taken off post mod in exchange that we don’t talk about what happened before. but i’m also sorry for saying jack doesn’t have a dick. that’s rude and cheap. but i also don’t appreciate being casually disrespected. so i thought it was fair at the time. but that kind of thing can stick with you. i had the idea that with the way people can actually discuss and process issues in this site what i had to say would be well respected. but i don’t have any hope for that at this point. i was directing my feelings toward action again which is a major problem i have.
Okay, first, welcome back. Second, that's not . . . that's not an exchange that works. History erasing was one of the reasons that your continued post moderation was considered a positive. We can just not talk about it, sure, that's valid if you don't want to bring it up, and I know I at least can agree to not bring things from the past up. I also, aside from not being able to, mechanically, take you off post mod, continue to think it would be a bad idea. Especially if you think the site in general is bad for you, beneath you, and hopeless - that does not seem like a recipe for interactions that would go well for everyone, and a moderator putting eyes on a post first seems like it would be a good way to curb some of what might harm other people. edit: finished the last sentence
It's you going 'that never happened' when we have concrete written evidence that it did happen, and that it did happen exactly like we said it did.
uh hi welcome back but also if you're "disappointed" abt coming back and feel you won't be respected then why. are you coming back in the first place.
Yeah, same question. I sympathize with the need to interact with people but the whole point is that those interactions are healthy, which they clearly aren't for you on this site. So I have to wonder why you continue bashing your head against the wall here hoping it's going to budge, because, like... it's not, I don't know what to tell you. There are probably plenty of places out on the internet that can facilitate the communication you clearly need without that communication being constantly antagonistic and stressful.
FWIW I feel like it's fair to say you don't want to get back into the same arguments you left on, people are just blinking at asking to pretend it didn't happen, since that's a loaded framing that's been used against people here. Good luck.
No shade, but youtube comments seem like a very unlikely place to find meaningful and effective interaction. Like, it's happened, but not often.
ok well that doesn’t apply here so it’s not a problem. so with that in mind, what is the actual problem
if you don’t respect someone and are casually rude to them, you should probably just restrain yourself from replying. that is what i would consider trolling. if your only intention is to be smug and rude, and you have a history of being smug and rude to that person, asking them to see and interact with you is going to create unnecessary tension. so if i have you on ignore, and you continue to reply to me, the outcome will most likely not be the best.
i wanna explain something about how i communicate. so when i hear somebody, i care less about the words you say than the emotions behind them. so when you respond to me and the vibes you are giving off are utter disrespect, i will either not respond to you at all or go into full verbal attack mode until you either fuck off or change your attitude. i will most likely ignore people who include smug jabs or seem sarcastic in their wording to me. if i didn’t do that i failed to uphold my own boundary. that’s why i seem disappointed in myself here. but i’m sure people will learn me eventually
i also just wanna be in a community with some of the same people because in most of the internet there’s like 2 million people viewing each comment and there’s no context or history for anything
