Adulting is Hard etc

Discussion in 'Brainbent' started by Enzel, Jan 14, 2016.

  1. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

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  2. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    I sprayed what I could and wrote an email draft & helped Aki set up their air purifier, there's no real point contacting the office til Monday bc they certainly won't do shit over the weekend (it being a holiday too)...gonna revise the email since I tend to ramble and I noticed that no one reads long emails thoroughly so I have to be as succinct as possible -_- I'm braced for having to clean the ceiling tiles myself but if they actually get someone to get rid of the mold I'll take it. ugh.

    considering we've been smelling the cigarettes for basically exactly a year makes me think the leak has been a thing since then? unless dry cigarettes would smell that strongly just in summer heat?? (the smell basically went all thru Aki's room) I want to go clear them out myself but I'm not sure if I should leave it for evidence??? idk if it matters since it could have been a previous tenant or workmen or sth & it is something I can deal with in 5 mins with disposable gloves wheras mold...that may be deep in the wall and ceiling...ugh. basically I'm pissed about the fact that we were treated like we were nuts for smelling it but the biggest problem *is* the mold so I'm wondering if bringing up the cigarettes is derailing...

    I guess this could have been worse with a plaster/fully tiled ceiling bc the leak would have been less noticeable until the ceiling actually collapsed. but I'm still boggled by the stupidity of a fucking drop ceiling in a bathroom so moisture can just. saturate the underside of the floor upstairs.

    ...also it would be nice if they replaced the bathroom fan bc it's been making a horrible rattling noise since we moved in (initially it was part of the fixture was loose/broken so I secured it with glue but now its definitely inside the fan itself)



    ...in other shit news my work was one of the only places locally still enforcing masks but we just heard that corporate might drop it...ugh ugh ugh

    I honestly felt relief whenever someone looked at our masks required sign and left bc like. fuck you bye. had a hard enough time constantly reminding people not to take it off in the fitting rooms.

    today is the last day of public transit buses (for now....) and I am looking forward to having 2 hrs of my day back...

    thinking abt what still needs to be done...

    -organize the porch
    -then clean the living rm
    -make a cover for the coffee table so the cats don't scratch it up more...(small cat's fav thing is to put her front paws up on the corner and stretch, we had a tablecloth on it but she managed to scratch it up a bit anyway, thankfully fairly superficial but I'm going to use leftover couch cover fabric which she cant get her claws into... wondering if I can put some other fabric good for scratching on the edge so she can still do it w.o ruining the table?)
    -then tackle my room...

    -need to look back into the car registration process and get it done bf the end of July
    -afaik I should make a DMV appointment first bc insurance is apparently easy to set up same day?
    -car def needs a checkup so maybe do that first...it seems to still be running ok but I've noticed some...vibrating when I go on the highway and I'm wondering if the left front tire might have a slow leak...
    -check oil also

    -also make a DMV appointment to get a license I can use to travel now that I have a consistent address....
     
    Last edited: Jul 6, 2021
  3. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    hanging...in there.

    minor gripe but now that I'm back to full time, because my meds are time sensitive/controlled (can only pick up literally the day I run out and no earlier) and the pharmacy closes at 7, i have no way to get them after work so i have to get up extra early and go before...ofc I stayed up til 4am last night bc I make bad choices

    I'm doing a little better w the full time hrs than I thought at least. Work itself is less stressful than it used to be having a manager that actually has my back, so its really just the lack of free time that I'm struggling with. trying to get used to the new schedule and hoping I can settle in enough to find time to do creative stuff again...

    forget if I mentioned it but apparently my meds are less effective if I take them with food??? there was a huge difference once I tried taking them 40 mins before eating as psych suggested, so I at least bought some more time before I actually get too much of a tolerance. (crosses fingers) idk why this never came up in the like 4...5...years I've been on them?? but w.e (also apparently the whole "eating acidic foods reduces the effectiveness of stimulant meds" IS true despite the internet claiming it wasn't?? like there was a tumblr post going around saying it and then a bunch of ppl were like THIS ISNT TRUE I ASKED MY DOCTOR but my doctor confirmed it is so...I wonder if it's new research or sth...)


    made a bit of progress on cleaning my room...but ofc its laundry time again...lies on floor

    most of my extra money this month is going toward car but I wonder if I can swing a portable washer...we were talking abt getting a full size one bc there's a hookup in the basement but. idk. i guess the issue w a portable is we have no real space for it...it would probably have to live on the porch. It doesn't hurt to look I suppose...compare prices etc. (it would also be too small for sheets etc but that I could at least do at one of our parents' places every month or so...)


    reminder to self to finish sorting medical paperwork today and go put it in the file cabinet we got for this purpose that has been sitting empty this whole time...lol
     
  4. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    just learned how car loans work...ew. (was trying to collect info on how manageable it would be to buy a car if this one is on its last legs...) At least my credit union has good rates so it would just be a matter of getting approved...

    wonder if we should go w/ our original idea of getting a small loan to buy an actual washer/dryer to improve credit. like I should still have a good score bc I've paid my min balance every month and only let some roll over twice, but I have zero loan history.



    today:

    -sort those medical papers after work
    -check HSA balance/enter 2 receipts


    -make list of sewing projects:

    -cat cushions for carriers
    -make cat bed bigger
    -curtain for roommate's door to keep their AC from trying to cool the whole apt all day so cats can still come and go
    -repairs (fix summer pants, shirt)
    -see if extra fabric I got to finish quilt matches the color well

    -check if I have some good plaid fabric for cosplay...
     
  5. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    possible car issues: slow leak in tire, timing belt, suspension

    out at a doctor appt rn gotta call and make mechanic appointment when I get home...and then call the landlord's office about the mold (sigh)

    realized this month I get paid 3 times so there's that at least. won't have much left over but good bc I'm getting car expenses dumped on my head

    talked to roommates & concluded we should just get a normal washer/dryer, at least split 3 ways it won't be too bad. so do some research there...

    also have to call...gas company? I think. keep getting calls abt the gas meter. annoying that they don't go to the landlord like why.
     
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  6. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    after days of no reply to my email abt mold. get an email at 8:30am this morning from landlord's office saying the landlord's husband will be "doing work on the property" today and can look at the problem. OFC i am on the train to work at like 10:30 when i see this because WHO CHECKS THEIR FUCKING EMAIL AT 8:30 AM ALSO HE WAS ALREADY BANGING AROUND UPSTAIRS MAKING AN UNHOLY RACKET BY THE TIME I LEFT

    and...he didn't call either me or my roommates so he didn't come to see the mold after all (our doorbell does not work and never has since we moved in and i've mentioned that fact MULTIPLE TIMES) even tho i replied to the email saying my roommate was home.

    So tomorrow im getting up at like 7am, taking the car to the mechanic to find out how many thousands of $$$ repairs will cost, then calling the office to be like "sooooo why did you say the landlord's husband was coming by and then he never contacted us to let him in meaning my roommate literally waited for him for hours instead of doing her own errands??? and wasted her entire fucking day? Also maybe give 24 hr notice BY PHONE and verbally confirm it instead of fucking emailing me like wtf also MAYBE GIVE 24 HOUR NOTICE BEFORE YOU'RE GOING TO BANG ON PIPES AND SAW THINGS ABOVE OUR HEADS BEFORE 10AM also the upstairs neighbor still lets his child run amok at all hours of the night banging on the floor"
     
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  7. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    forgot to call the office bc half asleep this morning...ugh.

    have no idea how much car repairs will cost...I wasn't told when to expect a call back but all the other mechanics I've been to have gotten back to me within a day but I didn't get a call bf they closed so im... confused if this is normal or not. but the place was very busy when I went so maybe they're swamped? I'm now unsure if I should wait for a call or call them tomorrow to check or if that would be seen as obnoxious...but kinda need to know how long we'll be without a car?


    ...on top of that Aki got billed for their surgery what amounts to $1000 when it was supposed to be paid in full. apparently their doctor told them they wouldn't have to pay anything with state insurance but the thing is they weren't ON state insurance, they were on discounted private insurance thru the state marketplace which APPARENTLY has a deductible and idk how tf the doctor missed that if she had to send in the prior auth forms and all????

    • the only possible upside is that they *had* gotten approved for state insurance...just idk if the plan I picked for them that keeps their current doctors is like. retroactive to when they got approved or if it only counts the one they got shoved onto by default. bc the latter I'm p sure their surgery was not in-network. either way I called and asked them to re-bill to the state insurance because they did have both insurances simultaneously for the month of June so you'd think it might cover something. I'm prepared to fight over this tbh. I'm very annoyed how fucking obtuse they make it. im also PRETTY SURE I checked if their private insurance covered the procedure and it said nothing about a deductible. like I did this legwork. bullshit. I also think its fucking bullshit that the insurance wont tell you exactly how much you'll have to pay ahead of time.

    (angry gurgling)

    gonna be 2-4 weeks til we hear back on that I guess.
     
  8. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    #1 source of stress: money
     
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  9. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    Car bill: nasty. (both axles and steering column part need replacing...the only good news is that the suspected tire leak was small and very fixable.)

    However, I talked to the mechanic abt options and he explained that RN buying a car (new or used) is a ripoff and a royal pain in the ass bc of parts shortages. so if we decided to sell it it would probably be worth more than it was when I checked last year, but it's also more expensive to get a car & they're not negotiating prices.

    he also said the type of car we have can get up to 200k miles on it & this one has maybe 86k so that's actually rly good for a 2007. And it may need more repairs within a year or so but if we take good care of it, it'll last a good whole longer.

    so...tentatively...(waiting for approval) but my roommate explained personal loans to me so I applied for one w/ my credit union...this way I can take up to a year to pay it back, cover the cost of having the car put under my name & the repairs, and have enough for other expenses every month...I also have no loans in my credit history and it seemed unlikely doing a payment plan w/ the mechanic would count as one. So yes I'll have to pay interest, but this hit just as I was starting back full time at work so I had no savings. But I do have steady income & this is basically what we were talking about doing for a washer/dryer anyway. (I think the whole credit score business is hot bullshit but if we ever want to afford a place of our own I have to do it...)

    so...I sent the application, it is a weekend so idk when I'll hear back but my credit union has apparently streamlined the process so they had a nice web form and everything.

    its certainly a better plan than my original one which was putting the repair bill on my credit card and paying only as much as I could on that each month...

    so current to do:

    this weekend:

    -keep checking email frequently
    -make list of food for different meals so I'm not aimlessly poking around in the fridge when hungry
    -help Aki w/ organizing kitchen
    -keep working on organizing porch & bedroom
    -make curtain for roommate's door so they can leave AC on during the day but cats can come and go
    -finish second pillow cover

    -call Aki's mom and update her on car situation
    -review car registration/selling process
    -make DMV appointment for that
    -also DMV appointment for that special license now that I have a real address they'll accept documents for (-_-)
    -once that's set, set up car insurance

    monday:
    -gas meter thing
    -pick up car if its done
     
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  10. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    feel a bit like I'm drowning. gotten between 4-6 hrs of sleep per night the past 3 days and tomorrow looking much of the same. my own fault and its gonna catch up to me. (couldn't sleep in on my days off bc of the various obligations above...can't get my ass to bed at night... )

    the loan got approved but I'm still waiting for the money to actually hit my acct...feel bad bc the mechanic called me Tuesday.

    god I just wanna sleep. but gotta get up early tomorrow & see if the money went thru so I can get on the bus, go pick up/pay for car & then drive back in time to catch the train to work...
     
  11. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    also my Reynauds got super bad this week (as in, sitting down for any length of time made me go ice cold from the waist down) and I'm 90% sure it's due to my raised stimulant dose so im gonna...cut the pills in half and go back to my old one and hope that taking them w.o food is enough to keep me functioning...if that's what 5mg can do...jesus. I even tried wearing leggings under my work pants (yes, with 80+ degree weather out) and it had no effect. been trying to strengthen the toes of my left foot (the ones that get it the worst) bc they started turning sideways & I looked it up and that's apparently caused by muscle issues... I still don't know why the joints feel so stiff but I've been doing my best to take more stretch breaks at work to prevent the nasty muscle cramps I get.

    man you hit 30 and they really do pile it on.
     
  12. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    slightly more alive...opted to sleep an extra hour and get car tomorrow (I was convinced today was Friday and not Thursday bc I'm so out of whack). called the mechanic to let him know & ease my conscience. still waiting for the money anyway. (tho the loan itself shows up in my online banking but only the option to make payments...its not in my checking yet. Hopefully today...)
     
  13. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    sleep is amazing and I highly recommend it btw

    loan settled & car picked up but the wheel is drifting even tho they did an alignment so I have to bring it back in Monday...(grumbles) at least it shouldn't cost anything more since the repair is under warranty

    looked up the car transfer process and apparently insurance is actually the *first* step so I'll have to get on that this week.

    Also supposedly landlord is sending someone to tackle the mold problem this wk. thankfully I have several days off...

    just wanna do creative stuff but the adult obligations keep comin and they don't stop comin...




    apropos of nothing, saw someone on Twitter that had their display name as "Adult Human Tamale" as a way to mock terfs and had a good giggle over it
     
  14. Enzel

    Enzel androgynous jrpg protag

    saw a post that was like "stop thinking about people as good people or bad people, think about the things people do as good or bad" and while I theoretically agree i immediately felt like shit because. when your brain is constantly sabotaging you to do "bad" things and hurt people despite your best intentions what do you do. when do you do when trying your hardest isn't enough.

    like the framing doesn't really help me if it's just going from "you are a bad person" to "you do bad things" please tell me how to stop doing bad things when i have to take medication to increase my impulse control

    I also can't stop making social blunders if I can't understand why what I said was wrong because if I don't know *why* it was wrong I can't prevent similar things in the future. but asking is hurtful.
     
    Last edited: Jul 31, 2021 at 6:09 PM
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