Alright, so this is a bit of an odd question... to what degree do you guys agree to disagree on something with friends who have wildly different opinions? Are there certain subjects that are deal breakers? I was talking to my cousin about his issues with one of his fundamentalist Christian friends bringing up her voting against gay marriage in the context of a discussion of how he is kind of pushy about getting other people to reconsider their views on various things when he doesn't seem to extend the same courtesy to other people trying to change his mind. For context, the guy is gay and has been with his boyfriend for nearly 20 years now, and they're considered de-facto partners (I think this is comparable to common-law marriage in the US, but I'm not sure). He is also sort of anti-marriage in general and doesn't want to get married himself, but supports gay marriage because 'obviously marriage isn't going to stop any time soon and we deserve equality in the meanwhile'. From what he told me, her point was that if he expects her to at least give some thought to thinking about things in a different way, then he should have also thought about agreeing with her that gay marriage diminishes straight marriage somehow. He said that's different because it's directly applicable to him in a way their previous debates weren't (being gay and basically married) and also suggests negative things about gay relationships in general so there was no way he could possibly ever come close to agreeing with that. She said that he just refuses to agree to disagree and can't claim to be married given his opinions on marriage, and I guess the conversation ended on a sour note. Kind of inane, I guess, but what do you all think? I'm sorry about my storytelling, I'm kind of a waffler! I can't say I've noticed any issues with him not keeping an open mind when we talk about stuff, but at the same time our opinions on these sorts of issues are pretty similar, so maybe that's why? He's kind of argumentative and doesn't like the idea of agreeing to disagree on every subject without any sort of discussion, but not talking about issues seems to be this woman's strategy for dealing with friends who are far more left-leaning than her. My general feeling is that he might need to rein in his argumentative side for the sake of maintaining this friendship, but at the same time I feel like claiming that gay marriage ruins straight marriage somehow is incredibly disrespectful to him and his relationship and I would probably be reevaluating my friendship with her to begin with.