revives this thread to make A Complain I always get really uncomfortable and kinda angry when I see people who say they're DID systems refer to themselves as 'we' in everything and anything. like all the damn time just. "we like this, we think that, we did this today." why does this bother me?? well, first off, if you feel like a cohesive unit, you probably don't have DID, you have something closer to OSDD if you have anything at all. but secondly....there's a major struggle for individuality for me and some of the others here because of the whole DID thing. like, when I first found out I had DID, I freaked the fuck out about "is it really my life? is this really my body? can I claim ownership of anything? am I really me, or am I just one piece of a whole and therefore not individual and don't matter in any way?" and it was....crazy upsetting. and the others struggle with that a lot of the time too, especially because they have to pretend to be me a lot of the time, and that can involve misgendering for some of them, and always being called by the wrong name, and never getting to express their own opinions or wear what they want to wear and....it's hard for all of us! so we do our best to keep ourselves separate. very, very rarely do any of us refer to ourselves as 'we' because that makes us feel like....just a cog in a machine, rather than a unique personality, even if we know we are really a unique personality that just happens to share a body with others. like, I'm referring to us as 'we' right now, because this is a feeling that basically all of us share--but the rest of the time? there's no 'we think this, we like that, we did this', because we don't all think the same thing, we don't all like the same stuff, and unless we were all cofronting at the same exact time (which would be like. impossible) then only one or maybe two of us did that thing, and it feels disingenuous and uncomfortable to refer to ourselves as 'we' all the time about everything. there's such a big struggle for each of us to feel like our own person, and it's....hard. it's even hard for me, and I thought I was the only person here for the longest fucking time--it's even more difficult for the others, who've only ever been part of a system and have always known they're not the only ones in here. it just makes you feel like you don't matter as an individual, like no one appreciates you for you, and no one wants to know you personally. and it makes me wonder, a lot of the time, if I can really call anything mine, or even consider myself an individual. it's....really fucking hard to deal with. and it just bothers me so much to see people who claim to be systems constantly referring to themselves as 'we', especially when the very few other actual-DID systems I know also struggle with individuality and such and would never refer to themselves as 'we' unless the situation really called for it. so yeah. idk. it bugs the hell outta me.