both of those are completely possible. i am just trying to fight through paranoia and the fear of this being some elaborate plan. ....ex bf did set up a plan for me to spy on the friends and get them to confess things via confidential conversations that were not in fact confidential because i was reporting everything back to him, btw. that was a thing that happened and that i went along with despite being really uncomfortable with it. specifically this was an incident where he suddenly cut all of them off, waited, and told me to message them saying i hadn't heard from him in a long time and was very worried, and then tell him what they said in response. it was weird.