breakup: bleh

Walk away, man. You don't need to take his shit, just end the conversation.

 

boy this sucks

 

"hey you're actually kind of a dick and i don't want to be around you" is sounding better and better...

 

idk how i can say yeah i'm coming back and then be like "you know wat i change my mind fuck you"

 

he's...vagueing about me i guess? jesus christ you're an adult why are you like this

edit: er, "you" meaning "him", not any of you guys

 

"I wanted to come back but the way you treated me showed I was wrong. Bye."

 

You know, you don't actually HAVE to say anything. Just drop conversation and engage Zero Contact Protocol. Drop him from your social media stuff while you're at it.

 

i'm currently not responding

@Lissa Lysik'an i...might use that actually. i. don't really want to drop him but i DO but i DON'T and ugh

 

....ok i think i am actually kind of splitting now. which isn't helpful but which feels..better than being sad actually. being angry is easier.

 

You might want to use an add-on to block his blog for a bit. It's what helped me when I went through a break-up; otherwise I kept going back and checking at it and getting miserable/mad all over again.

 

i'm on mobile practically all the time, no option for add-ons really

 

.....is it bad that apparently although i was trying to sound normal i sound pissed and he said "i'm just gonna go for now, sorry" and i felt vindictively glad.

 

i am going to feel completely different within a few hours probably, i enjoy feeling bitchy while i am being bitchy and hate myself afterwards every time

 

i am not bitchy very often, for the record.

 

....ok yeah now i feel guilty. i didn't. snap at him or anything i was just more formal than usual. which i probably shouldn't be doing but it is not easy to talk to him casually for heavens sake.

 

You have no reason to feel guilty for being distanced and cold, man. He just broke up with you and he's being an insulting douchebag on top of it, the fact that you aren't screaming obscenities at him is actually really impressive and cool of you.

 

...i have screamed obscenities at him before. twice. while splitting. but he's split at me plenty of times so i think we're even there.

 

Different contexts. Doesn't matter if you've fucked up in the past, the point is you're handling this current conflict as good as could be expected, and you have no reason to feel guilty. He wants his distance from you, so being formal and cold is your best option.

 

the urge to take care of him is still there. ugh. i am angry at him but i still want to throw myself 100% into being helpful.

 

ok nope i'm mad again.

"i just want to talk like we used to, i miss you." YOU SPECIFICALLY REQUESTED WE NOT TALK LIKE WE USED TO. WHAT DO YOU WANT